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Should I tell him?

 
 
Nyx8092
 
Reply Tue 23 Aug, 2016 01:18 am
I just got into a long distance relationship couple weeks ago when I met my so at a vacation and spent some nice times together. We already plan on visiting each other as soon as possible. What I am concerned about is that last night I went to a party back home and had some wine, but was doing nothing just having fun. Later that night a good friend of mine who we used to occasionally hook up with before came to me and he was obviously drunk. I didn't expect it to go a wrong way because I knew he had a girlfriend. He just put his hand around me and held me for a few minutes. Then he suddenly gave me a few light kisses on the lips from which I pulled away and definitely didn't make out with him. When he insisted to do more I turned him down saying that I can't do that, because I have a boyfriend. What he said surprised me, because he said he wouldn't know and that his girlfriends is actually fine with it. Nothing more happened after that and he just held me for the rest of the night. The thing is I don't know if to tell my new boyfriend about it, as I felt completely nothing for this guy, and I don't want to disappoint him, specially when I know how hard he works on visiting me later this year. I also don't want to tell him things like this over phone or text, which could be the only way how to do so. What do you think I should do?
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roger
 
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Reply Tue 23 Aug, 2016 01:30 am
@Nyx8092,
Sounds completely innocent, and no, I wouldn't tell him - unless there were a pretty good chance he might find out later. Even then, it really sounds like a complete nothing.
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CoastalRat
 
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Reply Fri 26 Aug, 2016 12:33 pm
@Nyx8092,
First off, if you only met the guy a couple weeks ago while on vacation, then obviously the time spent together was minimal, so I'm not sure I would call that having a relationship with him. But if that is all it takes for you to consider that you are in a relationship, who am I to disagree.

But, I don't get why you didn't just tell this obnoxious guy off and walk away from him. You claim he gave you a few light kisses on the lips. But you didn't kiss him. I don't believe this. After only one light kiss you should have been able to push him away. And if he really planted a few light kisses, then you were not pushing him away. But lets say I believe you did. Why didn't you at that point walk away from him? Why, if you felt you were in a relationship with someone else, would you continue to hang out with a guy who wanted to hook up with you and who you say then just
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held me for the rest of the night.
Why would you let him do that? I would submit that you really are not into this long distance guy the way you say you are. So I suggest you think about what you want a bit.

But to answer your main question, no, there is no reason to tell your new guy what happened. Because nothing really happened.
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