I usually just lurk, unless I feel I can add to the thread. First, I would like to say that there are huge differences in declawing and tail docking.
Tail docking started a long time ago on working breeds to prevent paying taxes. Tail docking is done at approximently at 3 days, before the nerve endings are fully formed. It would be a lot like a boys circumcision, the puppy would never remember, and there are not any long term affects to the process. I am not exactly sure why ear cropping began, other than merely vanity reasons.
Declawing is done at a later age, and if anyone would like more factual information on declawing, my husband has wrote a very long article to help educate cat owners on the negative long-term effects declawing can have on a cat.
http://www.familytimerags.com/declaw.html It is a very long read, but worth it for those who don't realize how awful declawing really is.
Trimming a cats nails is very easy, it may take a few times for you and your cat to feel comfortable with this new process, but before long they will sit still while you trim. If you start out with a kitten and get them used to it when they are young, it is much easier when they are older.
I have also used soft-paws, and again, it does take a few times to get adjusted to placing them on the cat, and for the cat to adjust to wearing them, but they do work well for the cat who doesn't take naturally to a scratching surface. Some cats do well with different surfaces, some sisal, some corrugated cardboard, and some carpet, but if you place enough acceptable scratching surfaces around the home, declawing should never, ever be the a first or last resort. I don't want to offend or put anyone down who has declawed their cat, but I do believe that education is the key to help people understand that this process is totally unnecessary.
Thank you,
Stormi