Thalion wrote:From where do you draw the conclusion that wishing for someone's wellfare makes you want to reproduce with them?
Who, me? I'm not drawing that conclusion. If you're not talking about me then just ignore this, but I was saying that love can't be defined merely as wishing for the well-being of others - I didn't say anything about caring about a person's well being leading to sex, that was exactly what I wasn't saying.
Quote:Or where do you draw the conclusion that you will care for the wellfare of those who are the result of your act of reproduction?
We probably have instincts which make us protect our children, don't you think? It makes evolutionary sense - the genes of those who don't care about the welfare of their offspring won't survive because they won't feel inclined to protect their children and their children will die without reproducing. But those who care about the welfare of their children are likely to protect their children's welfare and increase their chances of survival, thus increasing the likelihood of their genes passing on to further generations. So maybe we've evolved an instinct or something which makes us care about the welfare of our offspring.
Quote:The logic of concluding that caring for your friends/family makes you want to reproduce doesn't make sense to me.
I'm not sure that anyone has suggested that caring for your friends/family makes you
want to reproduce, but rather that it makes you more able to reproduce.
How about this: Your parents care about your well-being for the reasons I suggested above. You then care for your parents because they care for you, same as you like people who like you, and you eat things which make you feel good, and all that. You look out for each other and protect each other - you protect your parents so that they can live longer to protect you so that you can survive long enough to have children and pass on their genes. Your caring for your family increases the chances of survival for you and your family - and the longer you or your children survive, the more likely you or they are to reproduce. Caring for friends increases their chances for survival and gives them a reason to care for you, which again increases your chances of survival. Does that make any sense?