Thanks for posting. I remember you giving me advice on this a while back actually and I remember at the time not being in the right place to fully understand your perspective, but now I realise it is completely the right way to go about things.
I have made a list of skills I have, ways I like working, which includes the lifestyle I want and not just the 'identity' I want.
It's really inspiring you retrained in your 40's, and totally worth it if you are happier. I figure maybe if I have to retrain I have to retrain, and would have to just save up in whatever job I could get to pay for it I guess. I can work very very hard, but I find it hard to work very hard when there is no hope. If I knew I was going into an industry where there were jobs I wanted then I wouldn't find it so hard. I think the reason I am finding it so hard at the minute is that I have realised that this industry is probably always going to be this way, and i can't see a stable path for myself where I'm not constantly just working 14/16 hours a day, teaching on the side.
I think if I retrain it will have to be in an industry that 'unlocks' my current creative and management skills and gives them a new purpose, perhaps say for example if I learned web design I could work for a creative design or marketing agency? My friend made that transition and seems happy.
Incidentally. I thought of you the other day because I ate ossobuco for the first time, I never realised it was a dish!!