The thing is, could you beefs stop with the bludgioning?... Layman, tell us about yourself...what you have dealt with...
I aint goin into my life story or nuthin, Darlin, but with respect to this particular topic, I will say this:
Like probably everyone, I have been made the object of some bully's verbal abuse. Someone trying to act tough in front of his friends and punk you around, ya know?
In my experience, the best way to deal with that kinda crap is not to say a single word in your own defense, or in any way try to "deny" the allegations the bully is trying to make.
Best is to immediately bash his sorry face, without a word.
Funny how, once that happens, they cry like a 3-week old, and accuse you of "abusing" them, eh?