a little more elaboration,
an adult who needs help from others, but is unable to channel them into providing his needs through charm ,pity, and other love/affection/compassion triggers, can still acquire the needed ASSISTANCE through trading for it with the numerous skills, talents, products or services at his disposal, so when he keeps insisting for love, especially if it's a specified love, ("that" person", in "this" form, on "those" terms, etc) and even more so when it's not the more "capable" people that keep showing up on his radar, time and time again,
then we should try to analyze, if attempting to establish love, is the best method to resolve our dilemma, if this transaction is where we get the most for our emotional money, or we can pay less, invest less risk, trauma, frustration, etc , and get more promising and certain reward for our efforts, in a better economy elsewhere,
if the need is not real, but a product of a faulty mindset, shouldn't we focus to resolve the source of the bleeding rather then searching for the better band aid?
the faulty mind set i am referring to, is the false deceiving conclusion, that if i don't keep on being deceived by outsiders who keep on lying to me and saying to me i love you,i love you, i miss you (when they basically love and miss "only" their very secretive and personal experience and sensation that i am provoking in them) then i won't survive, or am not entitled to exist,
also keep in mind, that it is extremely unlikely that there is a person on the planet that is unable to trigger the love and attract the care of at least on other person in the universe, i would bet that the worst case , still will attract at least a few thousand lovers should the every human get a chance to date every human,
we might therefore conclude , that successful loved ones, are the result of a "successful combination", where the two parties,"both" happened to possess, the compatible "filling" for each others voids, and compatible "voids" for each others capabilities, rather then richness in value in the given loved one.
in short, it's a matter of compatibility rather then value.