@izzythepush,
I see a difference between the word "fate" and saying "my fate" or "your fate"
By itself, fate is simply what is destined to happened.
Saying "my fate" is more similar to saying "my lot"
Yes, the difference is subtle.
When I was a girl in catholic school, after playing during recess in the hot sun, and then wanting a drink of water, the nuns would tell us to "swallow your spit and offer up your thirst (suffering I suppose) to Christ, and think of him on the cross"
To this day I fail to see what that was all about. I guess we were just supposed to accept our lot as dehydrated childen. Either that or the nun just got off on not letting someone get a drink of water when it was about 20 feet away.