I'm really not trying to be insulting or condescending here Frank, but conversations with you about things like this tend to be circular, and once one has done a couple of circuits it seems a bit much.
Here's an example of reality using just light as an example. You're standing in the woods on a beautiful sunny day with a dog and an alien. You're all looking out at nature in all it's verdant finery. The dog sees grey, you see colour, the alien sees infra red and ultra violet as well as your spectrum. You all see 3 different things, but it's all reality. You can argue there's a greater reality, but all that means is there's 4 realities instead of 3.
Reality is a concept brought about by people, it's not some fixed property of nature. Now if you refuse to accept that, or even to put your preconceptions to one side, you're going to just go round and round in circles. Don't be upset that nobody else wants to ride the Merry-Go-Round with you.