Yeah, K, the patiobitch somtimes talks about plans to have one, until she spends some time with one. And this is a woman who nannied for years, including for a set of twins.
Thanks Soz, I'm sure I'll need more.
Ya know, my neice, who I also care for, is a totally different child Than this one (E). It really is amazing. She's almost a year older than E is so I had some practice. Thank gawd I did.
Pdog - see, nannying ruins a girl. Ah, not really. I've never really been so sure I wanted a kid.
I can go either way (isn't that a horrible thing to say?), so I'm not sweating it too much. Just so long as it's not in the next couple of years.
Not a terrible thing to say. Me too. I wonder how it is that so many people have them and that the drive seems to be so strong. I really don't get it. I also don't understand that so many people marry. I mean, I want to settle down, marry or not, but ... but what....? Hmmm, but, what makes it such a force in and of itself?
Well, people who didn't care so much were less inclined to pass their genes to the next generation and died out. Same goes for cultural ideas. One tribe says, "What's the big deal with babies? We're going to save our energy for other things. Look at this killer statue." Well, the tribe next door thinks, "It's great to have babies. It's the best thing ever. Lets have as many babies as we can support."
Which tribe is still around a century later?
so, how do explain us? Genetic throwbacks?
Dead ends if we don't procreate. Big problem if you were David or Abraham.
For the record, I wasn't particularly gung-ho on having babies for a long time -- liked 'em fine, wasn't ready to have my own. Met E.G., shacked up with E.G. for 4 years, was married to E.G. for another 4 years, THEN had the kid.
I have friends who want to have a kid no matter what -- if they can't find a life partner, fine, whatever, small detail -- but for a lot of people, I think being in a relationship you know is lifelong is the kicker. (Again, not all, though.)
The tricky, chicken/ egg part though is that sometimes once you get in the lifelong relationship, people have different ideas. Some friends of ours are having a horrible time because she doesn't want kids, he does. He REALLY does. They've been together for more than a dozen years now, have some time left, biological clock wise, but not a ton.
I always assumed it would be a discussion with a life-partner and until I met a life-partner it wasn't something I needed to think about. Now, I'm 34 and there's no guy on the horizon to shack up with, sooo.... I guess I just don't see it happening.
Hey Little_K:
Have you tried barbed wire and a gag yet
Anon
