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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 07:26 pm
Just found out that my 16 yr old daughter sent a nude picture of herself and now it is being sent by the boy to all his friends. .how should I discipline her.
 
Frank Apisa
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 07:32 pm
@very sad mom,
She has already been "disciplined" by what has happened.

Just point out to her that she has...and ask her to use what has happened to learn to make better decisions in the future.
oralloy
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 07:39 pm

It would seem like the act carries with it it's own built-in punishment.

Is your daughter horrified that the picture is now being passed around?

I don't know what to recommend regarding punishment (hopefully people wiser than me will speak up), but you might want to also give some thought to helping her deal with the embarrassment and emotional trauma from having everyone see the picture.
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oralloy
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 07:50 pm

One additional thought: The guy who betrayed her trust by spreading the picture around, probably shouldn't be part of her life either as a friend or a boyfriend. He sounds like a real jerk.
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Butrflynet
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 08:00 pm
@very sad mom,
She shouldn't be disciplined. She needs education about personal boundaries, personal safety, and cell phone and internet safety.

Make this an opportunity for learning some life lessons not punishment for placing misguided trust in someone not worthy of her trust.

If you want some web links to help you with this, let us know. You won't be the first parent or young adult making use of them.

Be gentle with your daughter. This could be a life changing event for her, depending upon how it is handled.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 09:01 pm
@very sad mom,
very sad mom wrote:

Just found out that my 16 yr old daughter sent a nude picture of herself
and now it is being sent by the boy to all his friends. how should I discipline her.
She did not send a picture of U.
It is not your place to take revenge upon her.

How about COMFORTING her, instead??
U will lose her in 2 years (or in 1 year and how many months??)

Do u want her to remember u with resentment ??
or as a kind Mom?? Which is better ?
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chai2
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 09:16 pm
@Butrflynet,
Butrflynet wrote:


Be gentle with your daughter. This could be a life changing event for her, depending upon how it is handled.



Definately.
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chai2
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 09:44 pm
She's also had her trust in someone betrayed, and in a very personal way.

If it were me at that age, and with everyone she knows with a cell phone, there's no way I could possibly feel worse about what happened.

She needs to know she can still trust her mother to comfort her.
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very sad mom
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 09:45 pm
@Frank Apisa,
She in not upset bout the picture but about getting caught..she also sent some to her boyfriend and his mom found them and told me, that is how i found out bout the other one. Thank you for the advice I need to calm down and try to comfort her.
chai2
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 09:56 pm
@very sad mom,
When you do calm down....I think you'll realize she's very upset that pictures of her have been distributed to every boy and girl she knows, and complete strangers.

If she's being defensive, it's because she's scared.
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 2 Sep, 2014 10:31 pm
@very sad mom,
Your daughter learned a VALUABLE lesson in trust: DON 'T DO IT.





David
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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Thu 4 Sep, 2014 06:47 am
@very sad mom,
very sad mom wrote:

how should I discipline her.

Worst case scenario? You might not have to provide the discipline. Depending on where you live, you daughter could in theory be finding herself in legal trouble. Too many public cases have popped up where overzealous police departments and district attorneys have indicted minors with child porn charges because they sexted pictures of themselves to their friends, potential amours, etc.... Your daughter needs to learn about these possible consequences.
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