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How to get a girl at the 8th grade prom (quick!)?

 
 
Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:20 pm
im good at science, math, computers, gaming and history and trash at everything else the prom is on thursday. I never really like any girls in my school(im not gay). they are always so ugly or snotty or just mean. I asked one girl out in january but got rejected hard she said im not going to the prom anyways and walked away.......... it was a fail I think im anti social and my dad is forcing me to go to the prom I would like to be sleep or playing games while the prom is hapening but thats not an option. im not buff or sporty im only good in science. which is not going to help me get a girl so I need some badly needed help...ok
 
Ragman
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:47 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
Here's a piece of free advice. You know what free advice is worth, right?

In my opinion...you're Dad should back off, frankly!

A prom is not just a regular dance. And, seeing that the prom is coming up so soon..and you have no one you're interested or vice versa, what would be gained by going? Does your dad think that you need to be forced to socialize...to overcome your shyness?

Try reasoning with your dad...unless he has some really good reason...try saying "no" to your dad. It would be a poorly advised dad that would force his son to attend a prom...either solo or by asking just anyone. Is he paying expenses...for corsage, etc?

You're not going to be forced into being an overnight social success with this method. You'll only resent the intrusion. Hell, you're only 13 or 14. What's the hurry?
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:52 pm
@Ragman,
my dad is like a computer i tryed to talk to him but he said s"social events are important for a growing boy in this soceiy" Sad
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LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:52 pm
@Ragman,
thx anyway
Ragman
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:54 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
Why not have him read this thread? If he's acting like a computer, he's acting irrationally and not in your best interests.

with the dance ..a prom...it requires more advanced planning. Especially for the girl..who needs a fancy dress... called a formal dress. And you need a formal attire of some sort. Then there's a purchase of corsage. Or has all of this gone by the wayside? I am 100 yrs old, I'll have you know.
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:56 pm
@Ragman,
i know but hell get mad at me and just tell me to man up ur 14 years old you need to be social
Ragman
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:57 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
Just say no! Man up and say "no". Tell your Dad I said so.

Shoot! I could be old enough to be your Dad's dad! LOL
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:58 pm
@Ragman,
wow u is crazy hes 6,1 im 5,8 r u gonna help get a girl or not?>.<
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 03:59 pm
@Ragman,
no offense
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Ragman
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:00 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
Dude. It's just too late to get a date. Tell him I said he should have focused on this on a regular dance..not a prom. this is just whacky!

Is he threatening you with violence if you say no to him?

My Dad outweighed me by 50 lbs. I learned how to say no to him when he was being irrational. Of course, I missed a whole year...while in a coma...when he
'explained' to me the error of my ways.
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:01 pm
@Ragman,
no he is not but what do u mean its too late?
Ragman
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:04 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
You said the prom is Thursday ..right? You have no date and no clue who to ask, right? I'd call that too late. This is a formal dance!

FOCUS!
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:06 pm
@Ragman,
ok alot of people said the same thing
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:07 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
ill just try to ask a girl who has no date there in the dance itself
Ragman
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:08 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
Gee, I wonder what that means? Your dad should back off and not choose a prom to get you into socializing. The best time for that was during the year..or when you have summer vaca! Did he just wake up to all of this? Forcing you and putting the pressure on you is not good parenting.

Negotiate with your dad. Tell him if he stops this prom nonsense, you'll compromise and make some new female friends...during the summer.
jespah
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:10 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
It's too late to ask pretty much any girl to any prom, anywhere in the United States. For a girl to buy a prom dress is generally not something that happens overnight. Proms are also wicked expensive - is he footing the bill for this nonsense? Seriously, we are talking a few hundred, maybe even a few thou (no exaggeration), between limo, attire, flowers, dinner, prom tickets, and any after party activities.

If your father wants you to socialize, forcing you into the highest pressure situation of the year is just plain stupid.

HOWEVER -

You are not helping things. Asking one girl and then just not bothering with anyone else is not really trying that hard. I recognize that you aren't into most of the girls at your school, but if that's the case, then rejection or asking wouldn't be that fraught with emotion or shyness, right? And saying that you would rather sleep or play video games doesn't help, either (even if it's true). If he's seeing you growing fat and lazy (or thinks you are, or is afraid you will), then he's concerned. Maybe overly so, but he's concerned.

Is he perhaps concerned about your sexuality? I'm being serious here. Is he pushing you to do this because he thinks you may be gay? Because if that is his motivation, it's a lousy way to go about it, and your going (or not going) wouldn't prove it one way or the other, anyway.
Ragman
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:10 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
I tried...but I give up. I wish you good luck!

Jespah...agrees..and offers some more good advice.
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LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:11 pm
@Ragman,
i am social but im shy when it comes to girls so like i would make a huge complex plan to ask a girl out the i would get too scared to exxacute that plan
jespah
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:13 pm
@LoneWolf2981,
Cripes, you don't need a plan.

Go up to a female friend (have you got any?), and say something like, "Susan (or whatever her name is), do you have a date for prom? Because if you don't, would you go with me as a friend? I would be honored to escort you."

It's nice; it's simple. It makes it crystal clear that it's not for romance while it still says something kind to her.
LoneWolf2981
 
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Reply Fri 30 May, 2014 04:14 pm
@jespah,
im not gay some girls flirt wit me i just dont like them because of their personalitys snotty, mean , stupid or just plain weird
 

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