Are construction workers easy to talk to?

Osso is right. You are being way to aggressive. That's your hormones driving you. I know you don't want to here that. It's natural though. Back off. If he wants to see you he will find a way. If you don't want our advise, why ask? We are a bunch of old farts, but we were 18 at one time.

I was a landscape architect in my last place. I had a great house that was a mess, but I enjoyed fixing. I lucked into that there was a swath of seriously gorgeous hydrageas.. facing a big street. I was wary. One guy snapped them - they're worth money, but the second time, I caught him and I taught him how to prune, and to just ring the bell and and ask me.
Which he did.

Later, a landscape contractor, licence and all that, cut my hydrangeas to make love for his girl friend.

May he burn in rose flakes.

I don't think my or other's opinions will do any good here, and I see I've been off topic.
No matter.

Is there any particular reason why anyone of us is pussy footing around with this vainglorious immature girl/woman? One minute she is in high school obsessing over a construction worker, the next she is posting as a different poster asking strangers to view her picture and tell her if she looks her age (which is now 21). (Just shoot me now)

Disturbed gal will now state something either vulgar or make an attempt to be insulting. From one straight talker to another, get your **** together. Everyone else has been thru adolescence and I'm not sure why you want help with your never before heard of, marathon pity party. If you want to post every creepy thought that flits thru your head, put on your big girl panties and deal with it. You troll here because people you know already think you are an egg short of a dozen. I call bullshit on your so-called dilemma. See your GYN and make sure you are not in a hormone storm. You should also see a shrink, because you may be bi-polar. I'm not the forum director, but you have been wasting everyone else's time, can't speak for anyone else, my direct dispassionate response is you need help you won't get here and if you do you will reject it.

By the way, posting pictures of yourself is a cry for help. Do you look your age? How the hell can anyone know. You claim to be 16, 18 and now 21??? All I can tell you is I hope that is not your best photograph. But I'm sure your mother thinks you appear to be 21.

Finally, do not send me anymore PM's telling me to do something that is anatomically impossible. I am not neither appalled nor offended by your inability to articulate. I have raised children and managed military forces, you are a petulant lightweight. If you want your PM privileges curtailed, have at it.
In the meantime, get a check up from the head up, just in case everyone else is right and you are suffering from delusions of grandeur.

Happy frigging New Year! I sincerely hope you get the help you need.

I only have ever posted - and it has been a long time
- since I think she needs guidance, and not from me, but from people who deal with similar, such as psychologists.

I know she isn't a dummy, but is social skilled missing.

I get her vindictiveness, defense. Lonely place to be.

I agree, but it's not going to get fixed until she gets help. Her choices are to bellyache or solve the problem. I'm not doing her any favors by smoothing her ruffled feathers. It's great to get the warm fuzzys, but you need the cold pricklys to get balanced.

No, and that is due to my friend. Initially our plan was to go down together. But has failed multiple times. Still waiting on when as common sense imposes it would be much safer meeting someone for the first time with a friend by your side.

I appreciate you wanting to help.

You stated in a previous post of yours "I get it you are smart"
Therefore, if I'm smart, you shouldn't have any reason to post a theory that the guy might grab me. If I'm apparently "smart" don't you think I would already be aware of that chance? I am far from FULLY AWARE. Which is why I have been waiting on my friend to join me. But hasn't happened yet due to inconveniences. Good lord gracious.

I have self awareness. I don't have to prove it through or express it in my posts to show that I have it. Already ingrained.

I am aware of the factors, the risks and the chances of this. But the best you can do is find out, give it a try and hope for the best.

Marine DI, right?

Self awareness? No you don't.

Not calling any of you old, but the old are the wisest. So I listen. I thank you for that, but now that I'm aware of that I can have some more control over it. 18 and 20 yrs old aren't that far apart, so would the same thing apply to a 20 yr old...hormones? Just wondering.

But, there is no possible way he could see me. Other than myself going down there, casually walking around the construction site.

You are taking this all out of proportion. For however old you are, you are very immature to be coming across that way. Maybe I have a learning disability.. Maybe I can't fully express my thoughts the way I'd like to. But you shouldn't have any right to post something so explicit as you did.

FYI, that 21 yr old photo posting, I wanted a somewhat older age to start at, as most people think I'm older looking, and I just wanted some insight. So I put it as a 21 yr olds point of view, perspective. To get the most out of people's answers. Sure I could have said I'm 18, how old do I look. But from the consensus of people's opinions I have gotten regarding my age, I thought saying I'm 21 would be fine. No crime done there.

You really have taken this out of proportion. You are the perfect example of a dramatic human being, never mind myself. I'd assume you are in your 40s-50s, you should know how to go properly and maturely go about this rather than taking matters in the wrong hands. I sent you a message because you were nothing but disgustingly rude to someone my age. You get what you ask for. I am generally not a brutal person, but I don't mind doing so when needed.

Well, then, how do you improve social skills? If you are looking to help me, you should have included a brief tip or two.

I'll ask it again since you have ignored my question.


Exactly what is it you want help with?

You know what's awful? My hormones are being involuntarily driven, which I was not aware of until you informed me. Something I had no control of. And there I was, I should say STILL, getting viciously snapped at by strangers due to my uncontrol of hormones. As I said I'm more aware of it now, but for something that is out of your control, it's evil of people to snap at me. Especially 40-50+ year olds, if they were once my age, they should have a understanding. At least I would think so.

you don't think that if he had an interest in you that he'd find some way of getting in touch with you. he apparently knows what school you go to - he could wait for you after classes end etc

a man who is interested in a woman will find a way to meet her - just as a woman interested in a man will find a way to meet him

If you are planning to attempt to meet him near the construction site, you likely don't have to worry about meeting him alone - you're going to be out in the open. It's not like you're planning to go to his home alone to meet him for the first time.

Also - don't forget that you may not be able to go onto the construction site independently. You can't just wander onto the site 'casually'. Most sites have rules about access so they can get insurance coverage.