Fri 29 Nov, 2013 03:58 am
Yesterday I went into my daughter's room to check if she had brought all of her laundry, and there was an open notebook on her bed, I glanced over just to look(Yes, I know, I'm nosy and that's invading her privacy, but I was curious) it was a letter to my son who died back in May, which is why I read it..it talked about her everyday life, how much she loved and missed him, how she prayed he was in Heaven and wondered if he could actually read her letters. I feel a little bad for reading it, It shocked me, because she gets very aggrivated when people mention him or his death, always says "I don't want to talk him.." they were fairly close..she's 16 and he was 23..I'm really at loss at what to do about this if anything..
I'm very sorry for your loss. I don't think you need to do anything. I don't have any experience of this but writing seems like a healthy way for her to sort out her feelings. I definitely wouldn't tell her that you read her diary! If you want her to talk to you she needs to be able to trust you.
Sorry for your loss.
I think it's great that she is expressing her love and grief for her brother this way. What would be even better would be that you would ask her if you both could talk about him to each other. Sounds like both of you need this.