Are feminist the new prudes?
some women are prudes, whether or not they're feminists
Trying to define feminism/feminists is as tricky as trying to define tea baggers or liberals or conservatives or any other socio-political grouping. The terms/concepts are as fluid and have as much variety as the number of people trying to define them.
I would define myself, in part, as a feminist. I've discovered in the past decade or so that I'm now actually considered a humanist rather than a feminist by groups that think they have something to say about definitions. I still think of feminism as a significant part of my personal history.
My personal preference is to travel on my brain not my appearance, but it's a hard call as to what to think of other people who trade on their appearance if they've got other options.
For example, I'm not generally a fan of women who pride themselves on never paying for a meal because of their appearance, but I suspect there are other things I wouldn't like about them if I knew them better.