@Mame,
Oh no. Biology doesn't mean much to me.
I mean that I'm not naturally maternal. Kids were never on my radar. I never expected to be raising one and I have to
learn this stuff since I don't feel like it's instinctive for me.
I do rely a lot on research. I read a LOT anyway so learning how to do things by reading about how to do things is instinctive for me.
Also, I don't have any shame in asking questions and taking other opinions into consideration to try to figure out what's best for Mo. (Frankly, I think more parents should question their ideas instead of relying on "I turned out okay so it must be okay")
I know I overthink too many things but I give myself some rope when it comes to Mo. So much of his early life had to be undone. I don't want to mess up this part of it.