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What do I do about my lonely and bored mother?

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Mame
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 08:48 am
@ehBeth,
Why not get her to volunteer at the local soup kitchen or food bank? She'll be getting out of the house, interacting with others, and helping her friends at the same time.

Or she could volunteer at a nursing home.
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PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 08:48 am
@saab,
She does give them food and water on a daily basis...they're all living in our backyard. She's been letting anyone stay there for about 9 years now. I suspect they've been stealing our silverware, as there never is any around the house XD
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PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 08:50 am
@blueveinedthrobber,
She's never done drugs of any kind, even alcohol. She's against it.
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PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 08:52 am
@ehBeth,
No, I don't know when her birthday is. No ones ever really taken an interest.

Okay, I just asked her. Her birthday's on January the 6th. Hmm, seems like it just passed.
Mame
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 09:01 am
@PinkLipstick,
No wonder she's depressed. I might be, too, if no one took an interest in me. I think your post is full of BS. If you're that concerned about her, wish her a happy birthday and take her out for lunch.

You all sound strange to me.
PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 09:06 am
@Mame,
Birthdays aren't a big deal in our family. Heck, I hardly registered my own birthday passed this year. The only things we celebrate are Thanksgiving and Christmas, and those are celebrated with a reunion and food.
Mame
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 09:07 am
@PinkLipstick,
Whatever. You can't even wish your own mother a happy birthday?
PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 09:14 am
@Mame,
It already passed. It'd be awkward to walk up to her and say "Happy Birthday!" and then turn around and leave.
blueveinedthrobber
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 10:06 am
@PinkLipstick,
PinkLipstick wrote:

No, I don't know when her birthday is. No ones ever really taken an interest.

Okay, I just asked her. Her birthday's on January the 6th. Hmm, seems like it just passed.


That explains the problem. You're an asshole.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 10:09 am
@PinkLipstick,
PinkLipstick wrote:

It already passed. It'd be awkward to walk up to her and say "Happy Birthday!" and then turn around and leave.


it would be strange indeed

it would be nice if you said something like "sorry we missed your birthday. I'd like to celebrate it a bit - can I take you out for lunch?"

that shouldn't be too much effort - it's less than you've already put into this thread

PUNKEY
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 11:06 am
Post like this one remind me: there's his side, there's her side, then there's the truth.
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PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 07:22 pm
@PinkLipstick,
Ugh! I tried talking to her today because she gave prescription drugs to the kids (she got it from someone else). She hates admitting she's wrong, but all I wanted was for her to say she wouldn't give it to the kids anymore because it's bad for them (thankfully, they threw it up). She got upset and started an argument. Why do all our conversations end like this? I had forgotten why I don't talk to her.
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PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 07:26 pm
@ehBeth,
Take her out to lunch? With what money? I'm a full time student with no job. If anything, she'd end up buying the lunch
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PinkLipstick
 
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Reply Fri 11 Jan, 2013 07:33 pm
@blueveinedthrobber,
Your definition of an asshole is someone who doesn't say "happy birthday" to their family? Then isn't my mom an asshole for never saying "happy birthday" to her mom (who lives in the same house)? Or for not saying "happy birthday" to me? It's not as big of a deal as you might think for people who never celebrate birthdays.
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2013 11:10 am
@PinkLipstick,
Is there any mental health agency involved here? Her behavior - besides being illegal - borders on a mental health issue.

Don't feel guilty about distancing yourself from this entire scene. It sounds like it has been going on for some years and is a huge problem for the family.

Don't feel that you have to solve it, but you might let some agency know what's going on there.

May I ask the ages of yourself, mom and grandmom?
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blueveinedthrobber
 
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Reply Sat 12 Jan, 2013 04:20 pm
@PinkLipstick,
PinkLipstick wrote:

Your definition of an asshole is someone who doesn't say "happy birthday" to their family? Then isn't my mom an asshole for never saying "happy birthday" to her mom (who lives in the same house)? Or for not saying "happy birthday" to me? It's not as big of a deal as you might think for people who never celebrate birthdays.


probably, given the anecdotal evidence I see in this thread
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amygarside
 
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Reply Tue 15 Jan, 2013 06:21 am
@PinkLipstick,
Accompany her to a psychologist.
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