Oh I'm sorry to hear that Morgan feels guilty about starting that thread. He really shouldn't feel that way. He started the thread to urge people not to drink and drive, and to plan ahead to use alternate transportation if they knew they'd be drinking. And while Thom's accident and arrest provoked his posting the topic, Morgan did not identify Thom when he started the thread--he obviously wasn't intending it to be a specific discussion about Thom's case.
After it became a news story, and was all over the internet, the thread discussion focused on that specific accident, and Thom's name was used, and people commented about him, but I don't think that was what Morgan had in mind when he started the topic, nor could he have had any control over where the discussion veered.
And, compared to the magnitude of the consequences of that accident on Thom's life, any possible effects of that thread are really insignificant and trivial--even if Thom had read the thread. It couldn't have come as any surprise to him that people, including me, take a harsh view of drinking and driving, particularly when a fatality results, and the main negative attitudes voiced toward Thom, mostly by people who were strangers to him, had to do with his driving after he had been drinking, There's nothing at all unusual about that sort of sentiment toward people who drink and drive, and I don't feel guilty about expressing my feelings on that matter in that thread, even given the final tragic outcome of the story with Thom's suicide. My feelings about drinking and driving haven't changed.
So I hope that Morgan also sees that thread in it's proper perspective and inconsequential light. Thom made a terrible error in judgment that night last December when he got into his car to drive home from Georgie's--and the consequences of that error were catastrophic for him. Compared to those consequences, nothing said in that thread, or about that thread, really matters--that thread wasn't the significant or realistic source of Thom's stress or distress--he was dealing with a real life horrendous ordeal, which had all sorts of drastic ramifications for him.
Morgan started the thread because he wanted to see other people avoid winding up in the same situation that Thom found himself in. He wanted to urge people to use alternate transportation and not risk drinking and driving. Could his intentions have been any better? Was that an inappropriate topic, given the fact that he knew someone who had just been involved in a DUI with a fatality? Why should he feel guilty about starting that thread? In fact, given the final tragic outcome with Thom, the message that Morgan was trying to send, by starting that thread, seems even more urgent than ever--and I hope people heed it.