I know, I know guys. I know it sounds really bad and you're right I should wait but I'm just sick of waiting for a good guy and I want to have sex, and I don't know I just don't think it's that wrong. I've been thinking about it for a while so it's not something I randomly decided last night. Of course I would rather have my first time be with someone I love or at least really like and feel comfortable with, but who knows when that will come along. I'm so shy unless I'm drunk and I can't ever talk to guys that I like. I think I'm pretty, I'm just not confident. And I don't know maybe doing this will make more guys like me and that will make me confident. I realize how slutty this all sounds and I know I have self esteem problems, so you don't need to point any of that out!
Here is the thing, or the way I see it. You can really only lose your virginity once. If you hide it from the guy and then you never see him again it'll eventually bug you down the road. You are better off waiting until the guy at least likes you to lose that way you don't have any regrets or bad feelings towards yourself later.
If you are shy, there are ways to fix it. You don't have to use sex as a way to fix your shyness. It will leave you needing sex to feel confident which is never a good place to start from. Guys can easily take your confidence away if you use sex to obtain it. Trust me on this one.
When you talk to guys, think of them as if they are just another friend or a girl. Don't think of them as anything different or that you need to impress them or worried that you might scare them off. Just be yourself. You want to be yourself because it is the best thing to advertise. If you fluff up and present something other than yourself then they get interested, they will be let down when they discover the real you.
That is why it is bad to pretend to be something you are not. When a guy likes you for who you are and what qualities you have then you can be comfortable all the time around him and won't need to pretend. You won't need to put any effort into keeping him interested because he will be naturally.