What do you think I should do?

So, what help do you want from people?

I understand some women will be that rude, and say "no you are too short". I have a dear friend in America that got hit with that alot, older than you, however, he is about to get married. Everyone has good qualities it depends if you let something get you down, everyone has issues as well.

Yes, off course that is true but the way you wrote it was, as if it was located on your erhurm, which was protected not other areas.

LOL, so you've changed your mind, right?
It was "Nonsense" and all of a sudden "It makes sense".
Any problem can be solved except for the height, you can't change your height.
I have lots of good qualities but when it comes to dating, height is still a deal-breaker.
Sorry I was kinda confused, I just wanted any kind of help and now we are distracted...
Tell me, is there a cure for herpes, warts?

Nup... To be honest, it sounded like a "story" You know? I was protected and bang...You pointed out that it's around other "areas" ... That I get.

Nonsense means it's a story made up and you are trolling.. Are you? IDK I tend to think maybe you are a short guy who has had a lot of bad luck, but it's not a deal-breaker to every woman, so you are the sort of guy who gives up huh? And, who doesn't get laid no matter how tall or short he is? That's not the total problem, you are 30, some drunk girl you made laugh would have felt sorry for you and slept with you, something doesn't add up huh.. Maybe you stay home all the time and don't go out.

No, there is no cure but it's treatable and it lessons as years go buy and there are various things such as "no stressing" that can keep it at bay more.. Now, I don't know if as you watch porn whether you can go for it, or not with yourself without having a break out, maybe you should go and see a Doctor and ask those questions

Well inspector FOUND SOUL, I enjoy sharing my experiences and stuff with people especially in the cyber world since I can be anonymous and speak freely.
I'm from Japan and yes height is indeed a deal-breaker for every woman, at least the ones I approached. Although it's something I don't have control of and is genetic, they simply didn't care and they pointed to this case sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly. In Osaka where I live, almost every couple I see is the the kind of couples in which the guy is taller than the girl. (I'm only 5 feet 2 inches). It seems that there is a new social-norm taking place these days amongst new-generation women.
Why do you think I'm anti-social? Trust me, it's not a piece of cake to do it!
Are you saying that wanking can worsen it? man it's my only vibe.

LOLS.. Sorry, just on that last note..

Yeah I guess you could see me as a snooper huh? I guess different cultures can be different, I don't see 5ft 2 as being too short but I understand some do and Japan maybe different in as much as they may have a lot of "wishes" that they seem to have to meet, based on their family?

If it is genetic, um, then, your family had you

See how you just give up? Stay at home, why bother. Negativity breeds negativity doesn't it?

I have no idea honestly on that note, I do believe medication is available and that it's not constant and that it can be tamed.. So probably not.. You maybe safe.

If you met 100 women at 30, you can meet 100 more, you only need one, however, you will have to admit, you HAVE to be honest up-front before sex and that's the hardest part for you I believe now as it takes time to fall in love with someone... And, in addition, it's un-fair for you to have someone spend months with you (no sex) and then tell them.

Why not google if there is a Forum for people with herpes in Japan? Maybe you can meet loads of people including women .. It's not a death sentence.

It's very easy to feel sorry for yourself. One person who has every reason to feel that way is Nick Vujicic. A man born without limbs.


However, he is a remarkable man, and if you're interested an Aussie to boot. He is an inspirational speaker, and tours schools taking to teenagers with body issues. Having no limbs didn't stop him from getting married to a beautiful woman.

Absolutely he is a legend.

People have difficulties all their lives, I love those that just see everything as positive, believe in themselves and go, now where and GO FOR IT.

Thanks for that Izzy, I've seen his talents and listened to him, he is an inspiration for sure and one that people need to look at when they think they have problems.

Good posting.

Whenever I see him, it brings a tear to my eye.

It doesn't me, this is the example of pftttttttttttttttttt so what and I will be someone and respected in life because who cares?

I see this all the time and it's those people that tell people, it's ok... What is your problem? It encourages people to believe in themselves..

He's awesome.

Not a tear of pity, more one of joy, because he is so inspiring.

As for what the questioner should do, he's thirty so shouldn't really need telling but just in case. He should get his arse down to the clap clinic.

What makes you think there won't be?

I'd say the problem is less about height (er, why not approach short women? You and I both know there are short women out there) and more about the fact that you are awfully defeatist.

Look, I understand that it is frustrating and it sucks. And, of course, the fact that things went so badly this time is compounding things. But if anyone isn't going out with you just because of your height then that woman is horribly shallow, don't you think? Why would you want to be with someone like that?

Also, since you had $2000 to give to a hooker, why not use that kind of money and travel to other countries (or maybe even move to one) where the cultural norms about height aren't as ingrained? Here in the US, yes, there are women who are hung up on height - a hangup I have always thought was exceptionally stupid - but there are also plenty of dating sites where you can just input your preferences and your height and, for anyone where that's a dealbreaker they just won't answer your ad. Actually, why not try a dating site in Japan? I've gotta believe there is at least one.

Oh, and don't tell me that the personals don't work, are only for losers, etc. I am married to a wonderful man I met through the personals. Our 20th wedding anniversary was in May. Don't tell me they don't work.

You don't get it, do you?
The fact that I only need one woman out of 100 IS what keeps me frustrated, because you have this big number of potential dates and still can not get EVEN one!
Meanwhile, other jerks change their girlfriends like they change their sheets and sex to them is nothing but a daily routine, wtf!

Btw, how do you find my English?
I just need your feedback

Sheez, Jespah went into length there and you are like pftttttttt but I'm sure you will re-read and re-read, how did you like the photos Izzy put up? Don't believe that either?

I get it, we all get it. Negativity breeds negativity, keep being negative and you're right, you'll find no one.

Yes, your English, although wtf should be WTF... So, how come you are so well verses in the writing field. Means you are smart instead of stupid, therefore there's a chance you may actually friggen listen ..................

Men with no limbs have a better luck than short men, because they're looked at as inspirational icons.
Midgets for f**k sake have a better luck, at least there are fetish for midgets, I'm a little taller for a midget.
Fat men can get thinner, short men can not get taller, etc... and so forth.
You must see this excerpt from one of 20/20's episodes about short men and dating.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LwRe6tyqY8&lc=1fGfN0B1wmTPpaytT2ex8AgbT404nndVYm919JwmQNQ&feature=inbox

Especially 06:24 when the women say something like we won't pick Stew no matter what unless the others are murderers, psychos, or rapists.

Oh just **** off.

I've got no time for twats who envy men with no limbs. You're lonely for a reason, and it's got absolutely nothing to do with being short.

Calamity Jane wasn't calling you stupid, she was calling Joe Willis stupid (far as I can tell).

My dear, it' not about being defeatist or rigid.
I'm outgoing, cheerful, life lover and at the same time I don't want to be an arrogant prick.
I observe and then come up with conclusions. I've tried short women and been rejected, ironically they also favor tall men. I'm totally out of the game.
It won't change anything if you think that such women are horribly shallow, right?
I mean, do you want me to beg them not to be like that?
I've been to Poland for a year and it's even much worse.
Dating sites??? yeah, tell me about it. They're completely useless. I remember I lowered my standards (my last chance) and searched for 4/10 types of women and was ignored/rejected.
Well, good luck for you and your husband, I'm quite jealous.

Hmm. My first and very wonderful lover was 5' 3". I was 5' 5 1/2". I'm an American woman, hard to tell that by my online name. He remains in my memory as one of the brightest and sexiest people I ever met, and that was a long time ago. Also, that is not an idealization, he was genuinely brilliant and sexy besides that.

I haven't been to Japan and I don't know about average height there, but don't think you are all that short relative to the population. I suspect some of the problem may be your approach to these hundred (or so) women, that they use height as an excuse. I'm guessing, and this is just a surmise, that you might have a sort of crude approach. A lot of women around the world like to be liked for the specialness of who they are, what they think, rather than as an opportunity for immediate sex.

I'll agree you've got a problem for the future with herpes and hpv, having to tell women you might possibly have sex with. But - I know many people who have dealt with these successfully. So, as others have said, talk with your doctor.

If this is true, then why you dumped him?

We broke up over religion, his idea. He married the woman after me, who was from a similar background to his, not only of religion experiences, but re athletics. They've been married almost fifty years. I was hurt at first, but in retrospect, I think they really fit each other and came to that realization fairly early. (We've talked online a year or so ago, and still remember each other well.)

Sounds a bit as if you don't actually like women as people.