My Son

@hawkeye10,

Agree in not taking a chance in getting the state involved and perhaps giving him a life time record of criminal conduct!!!!

No matter how low the odds are it is not worth the risk to his future.

Howabout mailing the cards back with a note of apologize that does not ID him instead and making him donate some time helping a good cause or some such?

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@BillRM,

Or if the store runs a donation to a cause program make him put into the jar triple the value of what he stold.....the main point here is that the kid not benefit from his crime and that he be aware that he did a crime with out running the risk of the state harming your family.

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@HelpPlz,

There's some great advice here and some that seems, let's say, incongruous.
14 is often an age where kids begin to explore, question, rebel...etc
Perhaps there is a message here that offers an opportunity for the both of you.
Is this really about shoplifting? Or is there something else going on in his life?
Has anything changed recently at home or school that might be a contributing factor?

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@nqyringmind,

nqyringmind wrote:

There's some great advice here and some that seems, let's say, incongruous.
14 is often an age where kids begin to explore, question, rebel...etc
Perhaps there is a message here that offers an opportunity for the both of you.
Is this really about shoplifting? Or is there something else going on in his life?
Has anything changed recently at home or school that might be a contributing factor?

Yup. That's why I suggested a dialogue.

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@Lustig Andrei,

Absolutely a must! Idea

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@OmSigDAVID,

OmSigDAVID wrote:

AGREED.
The kid might end up in jail
for going to the victim store and confessing.

( Its not like ly to go all the way, but even so; the father shud be loyal to his son. )
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Agree. It's very unlikely to go this way, but I would surely consider the possibility, at least if I hadn't made contact with the store manager first. I think it would be impossible to get a conviction against an adult with nothing except an unsworn, voluntary statement, but different standards seem to apply to juveniles.

Anyway, as Michael Corlone famously said, "Never take sides with anyone against the family. Not ever."

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@roger,

Oh well. I hope everyone understands I was trying to quote David.

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@sozobe,

We already paid for all of them

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@HelpPlz,

That's what I'd gathered, thanks for the further info!

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@roger,

OmSigDAVID wrote:

AGREED.
The kid might end up in jail
for going to the victim store and confessing.

( Its not like ly to go all the way, but even so; the father shud be loyal to his son. )

roger wrote:

Agree. It's very unlikely to go this way, but I would surely consider the possibility,
at least if I hadn't made contact with the store manager first.

I think it would be impossible to get a conviction against an adult with nothing except an unsworn, voluntary statement, but

Well, if he shows up with the loot in hand and a confession ??????

roger wrote:

different standards seem to apply to juveniles.

What do u have in mind ?

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@HelpPlz,

Did your son pay for them?

If not, he should work to reimburse you - if he did and he truly is sorry (I'm sure you can tell) - then I'd suggest a talk and explain you do seems sorry and what have you learned and stuff = and then say since you learned from this and have made restitution, here are your cards and now go have a good time with them.

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@sozobe,

I wonder about his question is so complex.

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