@RonnieD,
Attorneys lie to everyone... What makes you think you are so special as to be exempt from a common law of all humanity...Everyone thinks it is great when their lawyers lie for them, but feel used and abused when the lawyer lies to them... Really??? You are surprised... Most of us would melt like the wicked witch is a pool of honesty... It is just like you saying: My Children.... Wouldn't that be something like: Our Children??? Children make the poorest sort of property... To fence them in like cattle is the most certain way to get them on the other side of it...I mean; what do you expect from your kids??? Love??? Children demand so much more love than they could possibly return, and to give them all they need in the form of closeness is to invite a charge in court...
Everyone needs to be the only one, the special one to some one... In the lives we have now-adays, everyone wants that special treatment -from boss to bozo... The only ones who will profit from it are children, and they deserve it, too... So; I would expect in the natural order of thing that your children could say MY mom; but that you could only with pride say my children...
They are not property... They are not a pale that can be fought over... Encourage fatherhood because it is hard for fathers to bond anyway... Just a hint, here; but unless your ex is the absolute devil in hell his kids are going to blow him off, and you too, and become exactly who they are, who they have always been, if you think about it...Children change without changing who they are, but the effect of a parent upon them is slight even if life long lasting... It is because they are even less capable of reason, and of being swayed by reason that they are so intransigent...
You may have good reason for hating your ex's guts... No matter how sharp you think you are, raising children is incredibly labor intensive, and you can use every bit of help you can get from the man, and child support is but a fraction of it... You will make a hero of him simply by putting him beyond the reach of his children who will need his emotional and moral support...You will fail in what you are attempting to do, and it is only a matter of by what degree...Is your hate worth the possible damage you might well do, and almost certainly will do???
I understand it well enough... It happens all the time...There was one of those ladies of classical antiquity named Cremhild, I believe, who fed her own son into the face of vengeance, and he was not alone her victim...If your blood is boiling there is no reason to feel alone... Have you considered a hit man, yet??? Or was that what the attorney was supposed to be...