Deathbed regrets

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This is from the Telegraph. It's about the most common regrets people have on their deathbeds. Something to think about for everyone, perhaps especially for those who still have the opportunity to do something about it.

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[+3] - JLNobody - 02/04/2012Msolga, I think we can (in our more honest moments) write your post. JL

@Cyracuz,

The thing that we regret lacking the most is not money, fame, power, etc.. It is wisdom.

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@JLNobody,

JLNobody wrote:

The thing that we regret lacking the most is not money, fame, power, etc..
It is wisdom.

What is the source of your information on this point ?

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@JLNobody,

I'll be content if I can die free from fear.

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@Cyracuz,

Cyracuz wrote:

I'll be content if I can die free from fear.

U can select your emotions.

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@OmSigDAVID,

What (objective) source tells you that one needs an (objective) source for this insight? Mine is subjective: it's called instuition or inspiration. You must have them too. Don't you?

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@JLNobody,

JLNobody wrote:

What (objective) source tells you that one needs an (objective) source for this insight?
Mine is subjective: it's called instuition [ ???? ] or inspiration. You must have them too. Don't you?

U asserted an allegation.

How good is your word ?????

I wanna know what evidence there is to indicate that it is FACTUALLY TRUE,
not just mindless bloviating.

It is worth while to separate what is true n correct
from falsity.

Do u understand that ?????????

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@JLNobody,

I am 33 years old now, and hopefully far from my last breath. Still, the realization that I will not live forever is with me. It seems to me that when I die, wisdom will be as useless to me as material wealth. I hope to have fulfilled my dreams to the extent that I don't leave anything undone. Most of all, I hope to have found acceptance of the fact by the time I clock out.
I've heard it said that everyone experiences moments of enlightenment from time to time. Rare seconds that are dimly remembered. I want my last moment to be one of those moments.

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@OmSigDAVID,

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U can select your emotions.

Yes. But then why do I still feel fear? For stuff, for myself or for people I care about...
Are you utterly fearless?
Is fear an emotion we ever really want to experience?

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@OmSigDAVID,

Sorry, that was a typographical error. I meant to write INTUITION.
I don't understand your post.

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@Cyracuz,

DAVID wrote:

U can select your emotions.

Cyracuz wrote:

Yes. But then why do I still feel fear?

Because u selected the incorrect emotion.

Cyracuz wrote:

For stuff, for myself or for people I care about...
Are you utterly fearless?

Yes.

Cyracuz wrote:

Is fear an emotion we ever really want to experience?

It woud not be experienced if it were not called forth.

David

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@Cyracuz,

Cyracuz wrote:

I am 33 years old now, and hopefully far from my last breath.
Still, the realization that I will not live forever is with me.

U will NOT, u say??

I 'm shocked; Y not??????

Y will U be an exception ?????

Cyracuz wrote:

It seems to me that when I die, wisdom will be as useless to me as material wealth.

It seems quite unlikely that u will be able to "die"; has anyone ever done that b4????

Cyracuz wrote:

I hope to have fulfilled my dreams to the extent that I don't leave anything undone.
Most of all, I hope to have found acceptance of the fact by the time I clock out.
I've heard it said that everyone experiences moments of enlightenment from time to time.
Rare seconds that are dimly remembered.

U will have your life review experience, probably after your human body has molted off,
but very possibly while u r still inside of it.
My ex-girlfriend, Joan, had hers merely from a fright,
while she remained still inside her human body,
with no injury to her human body.

When u have that experience, u can Judge your incarnate life.
That has been done by the criteria of:
1. Love
and
2. Learning.

Cyracuz wrote:

I want my last moment to be one of those moments.

How is it POSSIBLE to have your "last moment" as u put it ???????

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@JLNobody,

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The thing that we regret lacking the most is not money, fame, power, etc.. It is wisdom.

Yes. I agree, JL.
I have never been particularly interested in money, fame, power, etc.
But I do regret some of the things I said, some of the things I did, some of the judgments I made, as an impetuous, so certain of everything young thing ..... sincerely.
I forgive myself (kinda) on the basis of my lack of experience of the world then ... but I so wish I had been wiser (& perhaps more tolerant?) when I was my younger self.
Those regrets stay with me, they linger ....
I hope I can set things straight & my regrets don't remain deathbed regrets.

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@Cyracuz,

I've lost contact with friends but I hope those regrets don't surface when I'm dying. I'd rather focus on remaining happy with those I love most.

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The article was posted on Facebook about a month ago and I thought it was very powerful.
When I compared my life to the regrets that were offered I found that I've done very well. I'm satisfied.

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@JLNobody,

JLNobody wrote:

Sorry, that was a typographical error.
I meant to write INTUITION.
I don't understand your post.

I 'll try to explain it:
When anyone claims that something is so,
anyone has a right to ask for evidence supporting that conclusion;
in other words: "where the hell did u get THAT idea ?????"

As to your allegation that:

JLNobody wrote:

The thing that we regret lacking the most is not money, fame, power, etc..
It is wisdom.

, I challenged u as to the truth of your assertion.
( Indeed, I dunno, but I suspect that in the last few minutes of the lives of Saddam and of Hitler,
thay wished that thay had a lot MORE POWER when thay needed it in military battle.

Indeed, I 've known many people who have died in hospitals
and we discussed how thay felt about it and how thay described it.
NONE of them = O reported that there had been the "regret" that u attribute to us (hereinabove set forth);
i.e., none them complained about paucity of "wisdom". Q.E.D.: u appear to be rong! Rong, rong, rong !

David

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@OmSigDAVID,

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It woud not be experienced if it were not called forth.

Which emotion I experience at any given time isn't entirely under my control. I cannot decide not to feel anger sometimes, for instance, though I can decide to act on it or not.

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@OmSigDAVID,

No, I will not live forever.

Why would I not be able to die?

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@msolga,

Msolga, I think we can (in our more honest moments) write your post.
JL

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@Cyracuz,

DAVID wrote:

It woud not be experienced if it were not called forth.

Cyracuz wrote:

Which emotion I experience at any given time isn't entirely under my control.

If not U, then WHO??

Cyracuz wrote:

I cannot decide not to feel anger sometimes,

Will u reveal how u have discovered this information ???

David

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