Ambition Crisis

you want to have a career in this area, you've already said that it could set you back a decade if this doesn't go well, you're concerned that this might show up on google ... who sponsors the festivals etc?

try to not talk about anything personal with him - it'll have to be a gradual change in the relationship because it seems there's already been some oversharing, but if you're serious about your career aspirations, you need to be cautious about what you share IRL

maybe the easiest answer is to call out the elephant in the room, and announce that the success of the project is imminently more important than libidos and sex.

just tell him that you are feeling the tension between you. (you don't have to label it good or bad, or state how much of it may or may not be there from your perspective) and that this project should come first.

leaving open the possibility for romance after it is over, or not. as to however straight you wish to play it...

I hope you have a written contract with him re your project.

I don't know the first thing about the sex/romance aspect of all this, but if you're working together you need something legal to make sure you get your share of the benefits.

Yeah, Rockhead I think you're right. Next time he compliments me I may as well come out and say it.

Well the corporate thing is hard to explain I guess. They're arts organisations, I'm not going to make any money out of this, just prestige and contacts. So, yeah there's no contract