Bullying: Should I just suck it up, or can I retaliate?

You can block his communications.

I understand that the damage has been done, but in terms of what you do now, if it's Facebook-exclusive you can just wipe the guy from your life.

What I meant about relationship with others is more like, is he posting lies about you on your friends' walls? That sort of thing.

If it's all from him to you, it's pretty easily handled really.

I actually didn't know I could block his communications. Now that I know that, You're right, this is pretty easily handled. And as far as posting lies about me on my friends' walls, I haven't seen anything like that. I don't have many friends on Facebook (I choose quality over quantity), but the ones I do have wouldn't believe him even if he did post lies about me.

You know, a lot of you are trying to tell me to try to let it go. A few are saying "Fight back!", and as tempting as that is, I think I'm gonna take the advice of the majority, and not do anything. My plan would've involved more work than it was worth anyway.

Great!

If you want any advice about how to block him, I can help.

Here's the relevant page from Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/help?page=841

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The wise decision.

Part two of the plan should be to ignore him and not let him get you riled up.

Part two has already been put into action. I have blocked his communications.

My thanks to sozobe for pointing out I can block him.

Thanks again for pointing that out. I appreciate the attempt at help, but I figured out how to do it. It was pretty simple.

Fortunately, I don't know his email (if he even has one) and he doesn't know any of mine, so I won't be hearing from him anytime soon, I do believe.

Great!

Hope that's the end of the chapter for you.

So do I. It was a bit rough for my taste.

then grow some balls.

yes and most likely their emotional weakness would have resulted in their commiting suicide for another reason besides cyber bullying. as to such electronic bullying being just as effective as real live world bullying, no, its not. real bullies beat you up. cyber bullies hurt your feelings. maybe you can see the difference.

i certainly can understand how a weakminded person who thinks his on-line "persona " is who he is could be insulted by on-line bullying behavior, but it is not the same as having a person punch you in the face, then steal your lunch money. the kid writing this thread ought to grow the **** up and either fight or get the hell off line. the world is a nasty place and you can either cover up or challenge the world. what is at about the opening of hamlet's soliloquy you don't understand?

btw you ought to note that i suggested how to deal with this issue, get even, or get lost.

Oh, tough guy! You don't either have to be like a rat in a corner throwing daggers at unsuspecting people who dare to pass. That's cowardly, too.

I see what your doing. It ain't gonna work.

Online, or face to face, it doesn't matter. Either way it is an attack against someone else. Mental abuse IS just as bad as physical abuse.

I challenge you to prove me wrong.

And don't bother saying that I'm unaffected, because I've been tempered by years of mental abuse. I can handle more than others, therefore I'm not a good control for this experiment.

I just discovered this thread; so, I'm a latecomer. Since some good advice has already been given, there's not much to be said at this point. I'll probably end up sounding dumb.

I'm very sorry for the trouble you've been having. Don't blame yourself for what's happened. Bullying is evidence of flawed character. In a sense, the bully is the one who has a problem, not you.

IMHO you need to make a distinction between self-defense and getting even. Think of the people you know who believe in the "getting even" philosophy. Generally, they're not the most pleasant people to be around. Repaying evil for evil doesn't work very well.

In the situation of physical bullying, when a bullied kid eventually fights back after other strategies have failed, this is self-defense, not getting even. There is absolutely nothing wrong with self-defense. Over several years I've read a lot of posts in various forums from guys who say they were physically bullied when they were kids. Fighting back seems to work in most instances of physical bullying, even if the bullied kid loses the fight. At least the bully knows the kid will fight back. But this is not your situation.

Regarding cyber-bullying, I think the best course of action is just to leave the forum where it's taking place. I understand your feelings of frustration, but this is the one situation in which the advice "Just ignore him" seems to be the best strategy. Messing with jerks online is just a waste of time. I'm convinced very little can be accomplished by trying to get back at someone online.

In the meantime, try to give yourself some emotional relief. I know this is hard to do, but evict the jerks from your thoughts. They're not worth your time or consideration. Rediscover your own worth as an individual. Think of a way you can be of service to others. Perhaps you could learn how to counsel bullied kids in some capacity.

Sorry if this sounds trite.

Actually, even coming in after the fact, that's still helpful advice. I have indeed decided to ignore my cyber-bully, simply by blocking his communications from my Facebook account. And regarding the self-defense vs getting even bit of your advice, that is a good point. And actually, I may just set this forum up to ignore someone else.

Don't be such a Baby, Suck it up!

Humor is the best medicine

YES. Some of us in this forum have fairly extensive Ignore lists. Its ez !





David