Your Opinions On Nepotism

My first thought was about "reverse nepotism". Hmmm.

It is only nepotism if either of you got your job because you are married. Just making a point about the meaning of the word, not your situation.

I would suggest that you consult legal counsel, in that company policies which prohibit spouses working together are of necessity "grandfathered" in the case of those already employed at the time of the implementation of the policy. What i mean by this is that if there were such a policy before the two of you began working together, the company violated its own policy, and you are entitled to compensation for having worked in good faith. On the other hand, if the company has a policy that spouses or relatives cannot work together which was promulgated after you began your employment, they cannot apply it to you. I would suggest getting legal advice (don't just ask a friend, pay for it--legal advice is always worth just what you paid for it), as this sounds very odd indeed.

There are many big firms that frown on couples working in the same office. Were you married to your husband when you took the job? Have you been written up for any performance problems in the past? Has your relationship impacted on your work?

How long were you working at your office. Your husband? Since I have no way to know what was going on at work, I really cannot comment. I once had two of my staff who were in a serious relationship, and eventually married. They were so discreet though, that I never knew of their relationship, until I got an invitation to their wedding.

Personally, I think that as a general rule, it is not a good idea for married couples to work in the same office, in close proximity to each other. Often couples bring their personal problems to the workplace, and that is not good for business. That is not to say that it won't work out in some instances.

What do YOU think? Did your relationship with your husband spill over into the office?

Patrick and I have worked together (self-employed) for 18 years. Now we work for a small company. I don't think we brought our personal life to the office. I think some of the other people are jealous because we are more successful than they are; which of course is because we work 10 times harder than they do. It just blows me away that I lost my job because of people complaining about Patrick and I working together and that I gave him preferential treatment. Which maybe I did to a certain extent, I don't think I could really help it; and I would have done the very same things for the other loan origiantors that I did for Patrick if they would have asked me.

existentialcarousel - Look at those two quotes. I think that you have your answer.

Check with a lawyer. If it is a very small company, they may not even be bound by policies that certain firms must adhere to.

Good point. Thanks.