@loopylu15,
We argued with your main question - and that's our way. We are an argumentative group here among the people who post the most - but otherwise, we at a2k are a site with thousands or zillions who may pick up on your question over time.
I can tell already that you are smart and feisty, so don't be deterred. Some of us rabble rousers are still learning how to write good arguments, and often act otherwise, like we know it all.
I meant to say welcome before, loopy.