@vikorr,
Quote:Everyone needs to socialise, but some people forget to... and CI's suggestion seemed to arise out of concern for you. So even with the smiley face afterwards, your reply comes across as condescending.
There's a preposition- You need to socialise which implies I don't socialise. How does the speaker know that?
I don't agree everyone needs to socialise, and some people forget to.
Examples are Symeon of Trier, who lived within the great Roman gate Porta Nigra with permission from the Archbishop of Trier, or Theophan the Recluse, the 19th-century Russian Orthodox monk who was later glorified as a saint. Celebrated figures who spent, or have spent, significant portions of their lives as recluses include Virgil,[1] Michelangelo,[2] Isaac Newton,[3][4] Emily Brontë, J. D. Salinger, Emily Dickinson, Gustave Flaubert,[5] Paul Cézanne,[6] Nikola Tesla,[7] Konstantin Tsiolkovsky, H.P. Lovecraft, Marie Curie,[8] Marcel Proust,[9] Howard Hughes, Greta Garbo, Jackson Pollock, Arturo Benedetti Michelangeli,[10] Jean-Luc Godard,[11] Thomas Pynchon, John Swartzwelder, Paul Allen, Layne Staley and Michael Jackson.[12]
--Source: Wikipedia
Besides that, a lot of people focus on their works and study day and night. It's important for them to indulge themselves into what they want.
You claim "everyone" is a wrong assumption. I can tell you there are some people who give up their comfortable lives and choose to be recluses in mountains according to reports.
Life styles are people's chooses, and the other people don't have right to instruct them.
Quote:All that said, it seems to me that you are working hard to better yourself, and both the hard work and the desire to better yourself I find that admirable and good. I also find it a good thing to respect peoples concerns / well meant advice, even while disagreeing with them.
I don't mean to be condescending, and I appreciate people's concerns as you do if the concern doesn't sound like you need to do something or not do soemthing on the basis of prepositon or assumption.
You didn't know about me as you misunderstood me previously.
I just seriously want to know how he knows what I need. I don't deny mind reading exists, but I don't figure out how he knows with a couple posts exchanged between him and me.
I agree people can express their opinions freely, but people shouldn't instruct the other people what they need or needn't . If you are talking about your own opinion, experiences, I appreciate. If you wrongly judge me and tell me, I have the right to ask. If you judge me and don't tell me, it is up to you.
I honestly don't try to be condescending. In order not to be misunderstood, so I added a smiley.
A Buddha said if you see a lotus because there's a lotus in your heart; if you see bullsh*t, because there's bullsh*t in your heart.
You read some books about NLP. I suppose you might know the maps of yours and mine are different to the territory. Please don't use your own map to define my own map.
What I want is I want to know how he thinks, and then I might tell him that preposition is incorrect. I don't want to pick up a fight with you or anyone esle. Please don't intrepret my words or thoughts at will. I've told you several times, please feel free to ask me if you don't know.
Please understand we are very different individuals from genders, cultures, native languages, to experiences.
That's all.