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Is Kindness Wiser Than Truth?

 
 
cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Tue 14 Jan, 2020 10:53 am
@Fil Albuquerque,
I don't know what kind of world you live in, but in my social circle, nobody tells 200 lies a day.
Leadfoot
 
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Reply Wed 15 Jan, 2020 08:02 am
Sometimes a single lie sits upon hundreds of others.
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Olivier5
 
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Reply Wed 15 Jan, 2020 08:36 am
In 1st century BC, Jewish sages proposed some answers to the OP. One of the many issues that separated the House (i.e. school) of Shammai from the House of Hillel was precisely whether one should always abide to "Thou shall not lie" or whether there was some room for "white lies".

The question was framed like this: If you're invited to a wedding and find the bride ugly, should you say so, or should you say that you find her beautiful?

The House of Shammai said it was wrong to lie, always, so if someone asks your opinion on the matter you should say: "the bride is ugly".

The House of Hillel said: "a bride is always beautiful on her wedding day", meaning she's always at her personal best on that day, so you should say: "the bride is beautiful".

I suspect what Hillel really meant was more utilitarian. Note the context of the conversation: nobody was asking for precise, accurate information when they asked you: "Don't you find the bride beautiful?" They were just engaging in social pep talk, and in such context, it's fine to give them social pep talk. Nobody is being deceived here.
cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Wed 15 Jan, 2020 04:48 pm
@Olivier5,
No need to comment on anything negative. If asked, just say, "she's a beautiful bride." Everybody's taste is subjective. Everybody doesn't have the same "taste or feeling" of what is beautiful or ugly. To me, my wife is beautiful. After the initial physical attraction, she turned out to be intelligent and kind. What does it matter how other's think about her? Her career as a nurse told me enough about her character.
Olivier5
 
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Reply Thu 16 Jan, 2020 07:39 am
@cicerone imposter,
Quote:
To me, my wife is beautiful.

I like her too... Laughing
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Fil Albuquerque
 
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Reply Sat 18 Jan, 2020 12:28 am
@cicerone imposter,
Cic, just stop lying about your social circles no lies super standards, here, no lying in the science!



coluber2001
 
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Reply Sat 18 Jan, 2020 12:46 pm
Maybe it should be restated as: wisdom is kinder than truth.
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cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Sat 18 Jan, 2020 02:16 pm
@Fil Albuquerque,
Our social circle is unique in many ways, including the fact that most of us have known each other when we were all single; and we're now seniors. None ever divorced, and our group lives in the San Francisco Bay Area including the East Bay, North Bay, and South Bay.
Fil Albuquerque
 
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Reply Sat 18 Jan, 2020 11:14 pm
@cicerone imposter,
I am glad none of you are divorced, I am neither.
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