Circumcision; to be or not to be?

But you also have to remember that uncircumcised men aren't having trouble finding sex because being uncircumcised is widely accepted where they live (Europe, for example). Where men aren't routinely circumcised, uncircumcised men are accepted (like places with high populations). For some the foreskin probably isn't a large deal, but to others I'm sure it is. I guess it's like anything else; it'll take some getting used to. What's the harm in trying. Thanks for your help, dear.

You could hardly expect to accept every opinion, but, he did not try to conquer or save anyone. He responded to your request. Learning from his experience, I offer nothing.

I've only seen 2 uncircumcised penises in my life.

The 2nd one is my husbands, and we've been married over 16 years.

If you were to ask me off the top of my head, I'd say a circumcised penis looks nicer.
But, I don't give it a thought anymore with my husband, no more than I give a thought to some random freckle on his left shoulder.

Not to be too indelicate dear, but when it's erect there isn't enough difference I can see to make a big deal about it, and if it isn't erect and you want to look at it, draw the foreskin back with your hand.

With any luck, it's get erect then, and the problem is again solved.

Next time you think about asking him to get circumcised, picture how you'd respond if he asked you to have your left pinkie cut off.

You can function just fine without it, and he might think it looks nicer.

Not saying this to insult men at all, but the male ego as far as their gear is very fragile.

As fragile as if someone was to tell us they weren't satisfied with our breasts.

Appreciate you have a good man, and don't talk about his dick, except to tell him how lovely it feels.

I completely agree with Drew here.

What if he were to ask YOU to get circumcised as well?

Sure, no sacrifice at all! He's just getting some foreskin sliced off to satisfy your selfish demands...

You don't understand that asking someone to have surgery as a result of your whim is a problem?

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Have you found intercourse with your current boyfriend strikingly different than intercourse with circumcised men?

ebheth, she said previously that she's been with her boyfriend for several years
already, but they have had no sexual relations.

Alone for that he deserves a medal!

Yep, sounds like this guy has already sacrificed enough. Let him keep his foreskin, and at least some dignity, at this point!

well, if they've had no sexual relations, then how does she know what his johnson looks like?

If she hasn't seen it, where is she getting her 'preferences' from?

At this point, I'd have to say his body is really none of her business.

Asking someone to have surgery of this sort as an adult is really intrusive. A friend of mine was circumcised as an adult when he converted to Judaism - the docs recommended against it, but he did it for love - then told us it had been more serious surgery than he'd expected. His later vasectomy was less painful/uncomfortable for him.

you're currently not interested in him sexually?

sheesh, let the poor guy go. There have got to be better matches out there for both of you.

If you're not interested sexually after several years of dating, there's a whole other level of problem here.

Right on. A little bit of foreskin removed won't suddenly fix this issue.

I think this was on an episode of that old show L.A. Law...

An orothdox jew was suing the mohel for messing up his infants circumcision.

He said it would distress his future bride, seeing how different it looked.

He lost the case, because, since he would marry an orthodox virgin, how would she have ever seen a penis?

Good one Chai! To a virgin it should not matter at all, plus a penis requires more
important features than aesthetics alone.

Thanks for your time anyway Roger.

After my post, I'm to the point I don't care anymore. Hearing other peoples' opinions helped me change mine, but thanks for your time. It's just something that anyone has to get used to regardless. I'm extremely fragile with how I handle personal matters like this with him, so he knows it's not a personal attack.

Advice noted. I would never intentionally insult him. Thank you chai2.

Well, circumcision of a woman is completely different than men and incomparable. It's mutilation (which I know to males, it is as well), but it does not hinder the sexual experience for a man. It's only aesthetic. I understand where you and DrewDad are coming from, though. I've decided against asking him, so indirectly, I'd like to thank you two.

I'm not demanding anything; he offered if I preferred it. By offering, he leaves himself open to my judgment. Regardless, I've decided he shouldn't. Secondly, a sacrifice is like losing a loved one, a home, or going to war. Losing a piece of skin that can be lived without is not a large sacrifice, if any.

I'm not asking him to do anything.

I hear the new models have cup holders and dvd players.