@TuringEquivalent,
TuringEquivalent;159810 wrote:I am open to being wrong. What i cannot stand are unjustified irrational claims from nowhere. If someone claim A, then they ought to give a good justification for A. Mass opinions, and talking points do not impress me.
Sure, and that's reasonable.
What I want to offer advice on - that you're certainly free to accept or toss as you see fit - is your reaction to it. It's not a criticism, its simply my thoughts on reacting to this.
Obviously it eats you up inside; pisses you off, makes you angry and even conjures up images of using a carving knife on someone. Although (I'm guessing) you're probably not
really going to do this, it illustrates well just how intensely it makes you feel. I can't imagine how this is a good thing for you - do you find the thought of allowing the views of others have
this much
control over you appealing?
Besides, as I suggested earlier, no matter how completely brainless an opinion sounds
it may actually be right!. If we're to have any hope of learning anything, it'll necessarily come from those encounters where an opinion
differs. In this case, remember that it's not up to someone else to convince you - if you care about your development you'll take responsibility for learning and consider it, think about it and give real consideration to the distinct possibility that they may not be using the
exact words you might want. I think a touch of humility goes a long way towards us understanding and both parties have to take responsibility for it. Often times others won't; because of this are you doing yourself justice by
not trying?
Sure, you can let bitterness eat you up; but this would be your decision. There's an opportunity there - in most cases - wisdom comes to those who are willing to irk through the pain of communication and humility lets us release our bias just enough to see what's being said in a new light.
So yea, just some advice. I know this might come off as a bit sanctimonious and self-righteous; mainly because I'm not as good at taking my own advice as giving it. I do consciously try though; and for those times I succeed, I get to reap the benefits. In any case, good luck!
Thanks