That's the argument for welfare. "What happens to us may not be our own fault."
It is the argument for welfare, but is it a bad one? The times you were unemployed, was it your fault?
It would be empty words. You can't tell your kids that they have to do well but if they fail you bail them out anyways.
Yea you can. If you instill good work ethics in your kids and teach them it is wrong to rely on their parents or others they will naturally want to be self-sufficient. But if they genuinely fail, you're there to help them. This isn't rewarding stupidity.