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How to hire a tutor?

 
 
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 10:23 am
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:
Picture books are better but they won't get him through life.

It is heartbreaking but its okay, I'm convinced that he'll be fine. Its just a bigger struggle than if he were "normal".

I really think he suffered some minor brain damage from oxygen deprivation when he was 5 weeks old -- he was hospitalized for a week because his blood oxygen levels were so low. His other parents said he had a cold and didn't seek treatment until I ..... ummmm...... insisted.
WOW! It sounds like u saved Mo's life.
So u know Mo since he was born?
boomerang
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 10:27 am
@OmSigDAVID,
Yes. I've known Mo's other mom for about 17 years. I met Mo on the day he was born. Today actually marks the 7 year anniversary of Mo moving in with us.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 10:31 am
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:

Yes. I've known Mo's other mom for about 17 years. I met Mo on the day he was born.
Today actually marks the 7 year anniversary of Mo moving in with us.
His mom was your friend?
CONGRATULATIONS on your anniversary!
I hope that u r going to celebrate with a cake and presents for Mo!





David
boomerang
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 10:32 am
@OmSigDAVID,
His other mom was about the age he is now when I met her. She was the little kid who lived next door.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 10:36 am
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:
His other mom was about the age he is now when I met her.
She was the little kid who lived next door.
I see; she was not able to take proper care of him?
Not motivated to attend to his medical (oxygen) needs?
boomerang
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 10:48 am
@OmSigDAVID,
She tried to take care of him. She did better than her mom had done with her. It's complicated.

Mo's other mom is a good person.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 11:42 am
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:

She tried to take care of him. She did better than her mom had done with her. It's complicated.

Mo's other mom is a good person.
Its very ez to see from your posts
that Mo is extremely fortunate to have u and your husband to parent him.





David
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Tue 12 Jan, 2010 12:48 pm
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:

Picture books are better but they won't get him through life.

It is heartbreaking but its okay, I'm convinced that he'll be fine. Its just a bigger struggle than if he were "normal".

I really think he suffered some minor brain damage from oxygen deprivation when he was 5 weeks old -- he was hospitalized for a week because his blood oxygen levels were so low. His other parents said he had a cold and didn't seek treatment until I ..... ummmm...... insisted.
If, in silence, Mo examines a very simple machine,
or a diagram thereof, will he understand how it works?
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boomerang
 
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Reply Wed 13 Jan, 2010 07:38 am
Probably, David. He actually has a better understanding of engines than I do. He has a truly remarkable memory.

Tutor #1 scored some big points yesterday. She sought out Mo's teacher at the school's PTA meeting to thank her for the referral and they arranged a meeting for one morning before school -- she was calling me to get an okay on that -- to discuss Mo's needs. She sounded kind of excited for the opportunity to work with Mo.

That's pretty cool.

sozobe
 
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Reply Wed 13 Jan, 2010 07:42 am
@boomerang,
That's very cool.
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Wed 13 Jan, 2010 02:41 pm
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:
David, you would love Mo. Mo is absolutely fascinated with guns.
He's in there right now modifiying his toy rifle -- a gatorade bottle is the scope
and this little case thingy is his "fast reloader". I have no idea how
he even knows about these things. Maybe he'll grow up to design guns.
He 'll be your answer to the beloved John Moses Browning! (2 fertile minds!)
Before I was 8, I was still in NY and had no access to functional firearms.
(My eyes locked onto the revolvers on the hips of police and bank guards.)
With an odd scrap of wood I found and my imagination, I had a neat new gun!
I 've known pacifistic parents (who have kept toy guns away from their children)
complain that thay make guns out of twisted bread, or their fingers.

I wonder if it woud be helpful to find him literature that has an allure
for him? We have many bookstores here in NY, to which I 've been drawn in,
as a pedestrian. (I 'm not sure if it says in the Bible that u r not supposed to pass
a bookstore without going in, but IT SHOUD!)
Some of them have had beautifully illustrated books with color pictures
of antique and of modern guns (rifles, revolvers and pistols)
with explanations of their history and of how thay function, including diagrams.
Ofen, these books (publishers' over runs) were being sold very cheaply; maybe $5.
Perhaps u can find a bookstore or public library where u are
whose literature will interest Mo?

Boomer, have u seen those TV commercials from "Hooked On Phonics" ?
That system purports to be good for teaching children to read.
Maybe u can Google it. (Maybe u have done that years ago.)




boomerang wrote:
Anyway.... he was here when one of the tutors I left a message for
called back which set of a new round of anger.
What is his objection concerning tutors?
I remember your having commented that Mo has a strong work ethic.




boomerang wrote:
However, I think he's coming to terms with the fact that this is going to happen.

I have one other call out to a tutor for an interview and this is where it will get hard for me.
I'm trying to ignore the price per hour so that it doesn't become the deciding factor.

One has a Masters degree in Education. She sounds great.
She doesn't have a lot of experience with special needs kids.
She didn't know what a non-verbal learning disability is.

The other has been a teacher's aid at a tony private school for 15 years.
She knew immediately about NVLD. She's tutored many special needs kids
and has a packed tutoring schedule -- she's VERY in demand.
(And she cost less than the other.) We meet her next week.
I must join in the opinions of the other posters who favor the 2nd tutor.





David
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boomerang
 
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Reply Wed 13 Jan, 2010 03:24 pm
Mo was one of those kids who turned everything into a gun. His fascination with them really grew after a visit to my brother at the army base where he is stationed.

I'm not gun crazy but I don't really mind his interest in them. As long as he's a "good guy" when playing with his gun toys I'm okay.

We have several of the "Eyewitness" books about soldiering and warfare.

It would be silly for me to object anyway, he's seen photos of me when I was a kid and just about every single one of them show me with my holster and cap gun. I loved that cap gun. I was a tough little cowgirl.
OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Wed 13 Jan, 2010 04:45 pm
@boomerang,
boomerang wrote:
Mo was one of those kids who turned everything into a gun.
His fascination with them really grew after a visit to my brother
at the army base where he is stationed.

I'm not gun crazy but I don't really mind his interest in them.
As long as he's a "good guy" when playing with his gun toys I'm okay.

We have several of the "Eyewitness" books about soldiering and warfare.

It would be silly for me to object anyway, he's seen photos of me
when I was a kid and just about every single one of them show me
with my holster and cap gun. I loved that cap gun. I was a tough little cowgirl.
I remember, when I was 6, a Catholic Priest showed his Luger P-'08
around to our class (unloaded). He said: "this is a German Luger."
It was burned into my mind; it is very sleak.
I remembered it for years, but was not able to get one
for a long time. Thay were scarce; then one fell into my hands.
Terrific price: only $600 !
Its an artifact of history.





David
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boomerang
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 08:17 am
I've stumbled on a crag in the great tutor adventure.

We have hired tutor #2. Mo is still furious, not understanding one bit why this is necessary.

As we were talking about the "why" he said "But I do great in school. All my teachers say so."

And you know what.... he's right. They do say so.

He has several special ed. classes but to him that just means that that's the way things are. He doesn't make the connection that he has these classes because he is falling behind, and that he needs extra help, and that the differences will just get bigger and bigger if we don't intervene.

And then he said "You're the only one who thinks I'm stupid."

And that really cut to the bone. More than anyone else I see his potential. I hate being that person but I guess I don't hate it enough to not get him help.

I realize the school doesn't want to send negative messages to the kids that are actually trying and who do actually need extra help but it really kind of puts parents in a shitty position.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 08:31 am
@boomerang,
Given that you picked up the experienced tutor, she may be able to (among other things) help Mo understand why.

Good luck to all!
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 08:35 am
@boomerang,
As I see it, the problem before u is one of DIPLOMACY:
to explain the situation so that he understands it,
without undermining his selfconfidence.

Forgive me, if I am stating the obvious.





David
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dlowan
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 08:36 am
@boomerang,
Sigh.


((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Boomer))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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djjd62
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 08:42 am
@boomerang,
oof

good luck, i'm sure things will work out, he may take some time, but i'm guessing he'll come around

(((for the whole boomer clan)))
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OmSigDAVID
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 08:55 am

Is it possible to give him something nice,
to soothe him and mellow him out a little ?
CalamityJane
 
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Reply Sat 23 Jan, 2010 10:13 am
@boomerang,
Being a parent is hard at times, especially when the kids think your decisions
work against them, nonetheless it has to be done!
Boomer, does Mo understand the concept of special ed and regular classes?

Explaining him, that he'll be part of the regular classes (again) if he's being
tutored might motivate him enough to accept the tutor and extra hours of
school work.
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