Yep. Its not the milk, it's the sucking.
The easiest thing to do is get a passy. But, people will scream that a passy is almost as bad as a bottle. (Its not. Putting a baby to bed with milk is bad for the toofies.)<--teeth
I thought we'd have to airbrush the pacifier out of my daughter's prom pictures, but she's sixteen and doesn't use passy anymore. Phew!
Some kids need more comfort. Hugging and rocking is best--but you can't do it all night.
Some kids have to scream full throttle for a few nights. This is too sad for me.
Good luck, Stephanie.