Can you love without "knowing" a person, place or thing?

@RealEyes,

I also remember the word "infatuation" was used frequently during my youth.
I believe most of us have gone through those stages.

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@Linkat,

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I've been accused of lying...

I, as you know, have been accused of lying, by the same person, only because I believed you, and said so, when you said you "loved" this person.

I love my husband; I love my 6 pets; I love my (personal) stuffed animal; I love the 2.5 acres on which I live...

And I love YOU, Linkat. I do NOT love the other person who posted about this topic in the first place.

I love you because I can sense, clearly and without doubt, that if I ever met you in person, I would hug you, laugh, and agree with you on many things... based entirely on the words you have typed on this board. I am familiar enough with words, and with semantics, to know a good, loving person from a not-so-loving person, based on keys pressed on a keyboard, and nothing more.

I was a very, very angry young woman. I disliked pretty much everyone I met, even kindly folk, because I distrusted them (my parents had taught me so).

30 years later, no, I do NOT love all people (especially those who call me a liar, hiss!) but I'm much more kindly disposed towards them.

It was, in fact, partly the people on A2K that taught me people are, in fact, lovable. My only regret is that I learned that so very late in life.

Um, can I call you Snuggle-Bins?

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@Linkat,

Oh, and another view: I do, in a way, love all human beings.

All I have to do is picture those people at, say, a year or so old, when they're marching around, falling over, trying to run and failing; you know how freaking cute toddlers are?

Each one of us was a toddler, once. At that age, all humans are lovable.

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Loving is not related to trusting.

David

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@OmSigDAVID,

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Loving is not related to trusting.

For me it is! Maybe this is a male/female issue... what do I know?

But I can't love anyone I don't already trust.

You mean, you can? Wait, I'm not speaking of Lust, here, but Love, which is different.

I think I can speak for almost all females: they do not love without trusting first.

They can Lust all day long; but love? Trust first.

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I agree that there is a difference between love and lust.

Too many people have been taken out by people thay trusted.
That 's a fact.

I don 't recommend paranoia; u shoud not live in a state of fear.
That woud not be fun and having fun is the most important thing in life,
but everyone shoud be aware that any man alive (including chicks)
is able to betray your trust, even lethally.

When I was 11 years old, I adopted the philosophy:
don 't trust anyone with more than u r willing to lose.

It pays to take precautions.
For instance, a chick shoud have secret emergency funds
that she can use in the event of an unexpected falling out with her guy.

A rong choice of words, or words not spoken, perhaps a misunderstanding,
can result in abrupt interruption of communications.
In my opinion, it pays to be prepared,
the same way that u r not planning to have a heart attack,
but u may carry health insurance anyway, just in case.

ANYWAY:
upon the basis of my years n decades of observation,
I am certain that trustworthiness is not built into human DNA.
Its not built into the DNA of animals either.
Humans and animals are unpredictable,
but u can love them anyway.

While doing so, its best to watch your back;
(figuratively speaking -- u shoud not try to actually DO that,
because u coud hurt your neck).

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@BorisKitten,

BorisKitten wrote:

you know how freaking cute toddlers are?

Each one of us was a toddler, once. At that age, all humans are lovable.

not so much for me. I particularly have a thing about very blonde babies and toddlers. I think most of them look kinda creepy. I have to make a fairly conscious effort not to lean away when people try to get me to hold their unbaked babies.

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@ehBeth,

ehBeth wrote:

BorisKitten wrote:
you know how freaking cute toddlers are?

Each one of us was a toddler, once. At that age, all humans are lovable.

not so much for me. I particularly have a thing about very blonde babies and toddlers.
I think most of them look kinda creepy.
I have to make a fairly conscious effort not to lean away when people try to get me to hold their unbaked babies.

At what age does that wear off ?

Hopefully u do not
try to bake them.

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@OmSigDAVID,

It depends. I generally don't like the look of blonde boys/men at any point. For girls/women, the revulsion wears off once they're about 4. It helps if their eyebrows/eyelashes aren't too pale.

I generally prefer peach/mocha or darker-skinned babies/toddlers/adults.

No, I haven't considered baking any of them off, though in the back of my mind I've wondered why the mother couldn't have kept them inside until they were a bit more done.

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@ehBeth,

ehBeth wrote:

It depends. I generally don't like the look of blonde boys/men at any point.
For girls/women, the revulsion wears off once they're about 4.
It helps if their eyebrows/eyelashes aren't too pale.

I generally prefer peach/mocha or darker-skinned babies/toddlers/adults.

No, I haven't considered baking any of them off,
though in the back of my mind I've wondered why the mother
couldn't have kept them inside until they were a bit more done.

I have wished that I coud trade.
When I was 8, I went to Arizona, whereupon I was abruptly darkend
by the sun, from which I have never fully recovered.
I got baked for 5 years.

If I coud have, I woud have, had golden blond hair.

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@ehBeth,

That's funny, unbaked babies! I guess I don't pay much attention to their coloring.

I like the way they are when they're just toddling (you could hardly call it "walking"). They pick up their feet in that exaggerated way, as if their feet might fly off if they're not careful, they get going and get all happy about it, then they go too fast and fall-down-go-boom. ****, that is cute!

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@BorisKitten,

BorisKitten wrote:

That's funny, unbaked babies! I guess I don't pay much attention to their coloring.

I like the way they are when they're just toddling (you could hardly call it "walking").
They pick up their feet in that exaggerated way, as if their feet might fly off
if they're not careful, they get going and get all happy about it,
then they go too fast and fall-down-go-boom. ****, that is cute!

As I think back over the years n decades of my incidental observation,
truth be told, I 've seen them fall, but never go "boom" until thay get
some firepower in their hands.

Ideally, not a magnum at first;
maybe a .32 'd be good.
I don 't recommend that for toddlers,
Newton 's 3rd Law of Motion being what it is; not even for senior toddlers.
It might cause a counter-toddle. That woud be a set back.

David

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@BorisKitten,

Ah how sweet, of course you can call me snuggle - whatever the h*ll. When people ask which I prefer to be called (my shorten version of my name or the more formal) - I say I don't care what you call me as long as it isn't a swear!

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@BorisKitten,

I agree and then envision these same people as an elderly person. Sometimes the elderly almost revert to being childlike as they age. I used to work part-time in a nursing home and often the resident were very loveable like young children (although not as cute).

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@ehBeth,

I can agree with babies - sometimes they are ugly alien looking things - even I thought my baby wasn't cute - beautiful because it was my child, but not cute.

Toddlers and preschoolers are about the most adorable things in the world though.

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@Linkat,

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...a nursing home and often the resident were very loveable like young children (although not as cute)...

Never thought of that, but you're right. Not as cute as toddlers, sure, but they're often quite endearing. It's the helplessness that makes them cute, to me.

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