Why do you downplay the fact that you exist in concert with the Universe? That one depends on the other, that it is a collaboration of observer and observed. That you are important enough that if you didn't exist, neither would the Universe. What is so hard to understand about this? Our best scientific minds have determined that the observer inevitably affects the observance.
Again, it's not that I don't understand it. It's simply that I don't buy it. Sure, I'm part of the universe, a subset in fact, and the matter of which I am made always was and will be part of it, but no, I don't buy the idea that the universe ends with my loss of conciousness. That it ends for me is just not relevant.