i miss my daddy

I would suggest that you talk to the school counselor and/or the assistant principal for your grade. Tell them the situation, and ask for their help and advice. They should be able to provide options.

It's okay to mourn, dezzie. Sometimes will be worse than others, but it will never really go away. It's something we all have to go through, and there's nothing wrong with it.

I'm sorry to read this. I think the idea to talk to your school counselor is a good one or, if you prefer, there's your doctor or your clergyperson, if you have one. Or your Mom.

Have you given any thought to putting your grief into action by joining a local group that advocates against drunk driving?

Here's one to check out. Mothers Against Drunk Drivers has local chapters in many states.

http://www.madd.org/home.aspx

They also have victim services that would be help you with coping with the sudden, unexpected death of your father. They include moderated online chat groups and other grieving and emotional support. Maybe you and your mother can look into this together.

http://www.madd.org/Victim-Services.aspx

Another thing they do is have speakers come to schools to talk about drinking and driving. It might help both you and the rest of your peers learn more about the risks and how they can help stop it.


My dad passed away from old age and an illness a couple years ago and I still miss him a great deal. Many of us here have lost a parent or two and know what you are going through. You aren't alone in that and it will take some time for it to not hurt as much. It is good that you are reaching out to people on the internet and asking for help with it. Please also do this offline. Those physical, comforting hugs from a loved one or friend really do help mend a lot of the pain.

i would love to do something like that. i am completely against drunk driving. i lost the thing that ment the most to me. and now all i want to do is bring some peace to my family. next month will be a year of my dad and i would like to have a speaker of somebody come to my school and talk to everybody.

i know. its just so hard knowing that the person that took the thing that ment the most to me walks around in the same hall ways i do.

Good, contact them and get started with it. Give us an update and let us know how it turns out.