I am not sure why - and of course I can't say it is across the board but girls as a whole just seem to be a little meaner.
I will be reading along to see what others think.
I was a skinny kid with big glasses, big front teeth and too much brains in primary school. And my parents broke up during my second year at school (so when I was 6 or so).
As you can imagine, things did not go well. I was bullied a fair bit - that year was worst, then gradually less and with ups and downs but yeah, basically throughout primary school it was ****.
I can still remember the names of the bad guys - and yes, they were all guys. Leo and Peter - if you're out there still, **** you. (Actually, Leo ended up in prison, I once heard through the grapevine, eons ago.)
The girls, on the other hand, were mostly indifferent, sometimes friendly, sometimes taking pity on me. The bullying never really got physical - this was milquetoast suburbia, in less edgy days - but I remember one time Peter was about to smack me around when the prettiest girl in the class that everyone had crush on intervened and saved me. Thanks girl. It wouldnt have been the smacking that'd been so bad, it was the humiliation most of all that hurt - and having her intervene softened that a bit, that time.
I did have a best friend, who was a boy, and who, since he was pretty strong and cool, probably spared me much worse just by being there, not necessarily doing anything, but saving me from being at the true bottom of the pile. (That was a girl, a fat and unkempt girl who, I later realised, was probably neglected or abused at home.) There were a coupla other boys who would play with me, or rather: us, kinda not caring either way, and a coupla girls the same.
Yeah and so then at 12 I went to high school, which was both in the city - away from suburbia and all the other kids - and a Montessori school, and even tho I always stayed skinny, my youth turned out fine after all
Almost all of my friends in later life have been girls/women though, I guess part of that goes back to all of this (tho I can think of other reasons too).