I'm trying to be amiable here CR. I just want a clear answer. I obviously was not able to extract the "why" out of your previous post, so I don't feel that you've properly stated your answer (as you've said is possible). I just want a clear "why."
I asked several specific question in my post to you that you didn't respond to either.
Do you believe that you are entitled to more because you are straight?
Did you have to ask for permission to use the term married?
These are very direct yes/no questions.
As for my question of your views vice your friendship, you proposed a question back which does not have the same relationship as the one I posted. The dilemma I posted to you has to do with whether you hold a view about something that does not effect you to be of greater importance than a social relationship. It does assume you must choose one or the other. It's a hypothetical. The question is designed such that you can declare what is more important/of greater value to you. If you do not wish to answer the question, you can simply state which is more important to you.
In short, I am at a loss to understand the desire to prohibit the LGBT community from either or both equal coupling rights and the term "marriage." As it's been clearly pointed out, what the state recognizes as marriage is not in line with any religious view as is. Catholics aren't being abused because the state recognizes a marriage that has people who have been divorced in it. You as a Christian, are in no way threatened or abused by what another couple (gay or straight) calls their relationship. So why make yourself an obstruction? Why deny gays the right to have their union recognized by the state as a marriage? Do you believe they don't deserve to call themselves married and be recognized by the state as such? Returning to the Catholics, do you think that the state should not recognized remarried people because it does not fall into their views of marriage? Do you think that you deserve that title more than a gay couple? If so, why? I want to know why? I want to understand what this phantom threat is. If their is no threat the ban on gay marriage seems meaningless and petty. As in: We don't need to stop you from calling yourself married, we just are.
Help me here.
I don't suspect you are a bigot CR. I don't think that you'll answer that you think you're superior to gays. I've read your posts, and you seem pretty decent in my mind. I think however this topic has brought a bit of you on character trial and that has yielded some sort of defensive behavior out of you. I think it's noble to go and talk to you gay friend about the topic. It just doesn't make sense to me: If you don't think you're superior, then why do you think you deserve something that your friend doesn't?
I'll get it if it's about religion, but does matters of rights factor into your thinking? Do you believe that people should have the right to do things that exist outside of your Christian code? Can you not share your Christian viewpoint with your friend in a world where you two are on equal footing?
I just want to know "why."