@Debra Law,
The argument that the connection between Polygamy and Gay marriage isn't far off, isn't invalid. It's a conclusion based on common sense, reason and the laws of nature.
Neither gay marriage nor polygamy are natural or healthy forms of marriage. Both of them are not what God or nature intended.
Those arguments about where you draw the line if you allow polygamy, are not mine. Those were the opinions of the supreme court in the reynolds vs US case. Those are their words, and you are ignoring the law of the land.
The government is not discriminating against gays because they do not prevent them from marrying. They can marry whoever they want, as long as it is someone from the opposite sex. Hell, they can find a crazy church that will marry them, but the government will not recognize the marriage. If that gay couple has legal issues, then they can create a will to remedy all the petty nuances that you use to justify gay marriage.
Heterosexual marriage, or as I call it marriage, is more beneficial to a child with one parent, or two parents of the same sex. If you have two fathers, who breast feeds? Breat feeding is healthier for the baby. There are so many proven psychological and physical ramifications that suggest a child is best nurtured with a paternal and maternal influence. Not my word. Study after study shows that. And we shouldn't punish a child or handicap them by forcing them to be raised in an unatural family setting.
It's typical of your side to ignore the concerns of the child. Abortion ring a bell? Your side just does whatever it feels like, which is why I love the quote, "to permit it would be to make professed doctrines of religous beliefs superior to the law of the land, and in effect to permit every citizen to become a law unto himself." - 1878 court opinion in the case Reynolds vs. US
You are exploiting the 14th amendment and you agree with it when you feel like it, then ignore it when it hurts you. You shouldn't pick and choose when you feel like applying the constitution.
Quote:You are trying to say that homosexuals struggle in relationships and as a community struggle with disease, and somehow that is a legitimate argument against allowing gays to marry. That's not a point. That's spin. Nothing more.
You miss the point to what I was saying. If the homosexual population accounts for nearly 70% of HIV cases, that lifestyle leads to death. It's not spin, it's a fact in research conducted by the Center for Disease Control. Homosexuals are not just struggling with some random disease. They are struggling with a life threatening disease. So, it is a legitimate argument because it speaks to the value of life. The Loving v. Virginia case said that interracial marriage should be allowed because marriage was a fundamental right to our survival. How can a group of people that leads a lifestyle leading to death serve the same function in our society? There was a reason marriage was deemed fundamental...for the survial of our species. Homosexuality does NOT lead to survival of our species, it leads to death. Threefore, your case about same sex marriage being a fundamental right fails the test.
Quote:...People in committed monogamous relationships are less likely to be exposed to sexual diseases"
The study I quoted proves you incorrect. In countries that have allowed for same sex marriage, the partners are having sex with multiple partners, how does that REDUCE exposure to life threatening diseases? I would argue that the more people you are having sex with, hetero or homosexual, the more likely you are to find yourself with a sexually transmitted disease.
Quote:"Banning homosexual marriages because some study indicates that some of those marriages might not be as "enduring" as some heterosexual marriages is not necessary to serve any state interest."
I'm glad that we can agree that homosexual marriages might not be as enduring as heterosexual marriages.
Quote:"If the State has a compelling interest in ensuring that marriage is a "life long commitment," then the State could ban divorces. But so long as married heterosexual couples are allowed to divorce, married homosexual couples must be allowed to divorce too."
On this point we can also agree. I believe that whoever came up with the phrase "irreconcilable differences" needs to be removed from society. After all, I believe this phrase has made divorce far too easy. Tougher divorce requirements would stregnthen marriages.
Quote:"You are an oppressor, not me. I have never voted to deny the fundamental right to marry to anyone."
Neither have I. I have voted to keep the definition of marriage what it always has been. Marriage rights are still available through civil unions. The fact that you can't accept a different label for something that is different does NOT prove that I have denied marriage rights to anyone. In a previous post to another individual on this board, you have stated that you are against polygamy, bisexual marriages, and incestual marriages. So, you are just as much of an oppressor and I am because you believe that polygamy, bisexual and incestual marriages are wrong. The only difference between us is how we view same sex marriage. Your logic fails you here. You say that we should be allowed to marry WHOMEVER we want to marry. But, using that logic, you would have to conclude that a bisexual person should be able to marry persons of both sexes because they desire to do so. You would also have to conclude that, because a bisexual person could have two marriage partners, a polygamist would also have the rights to marry more than one person if he or she should want to do so. Furthermore, you would have to allow interfamily marriages because your definition for whom should be allowed to marry revolved on how someone feels about another person. So, if a mom fell in love with her son, she should be allowed to marry him because to deny a person the opportunity to marry the person they love would be wrong. For you to deny any of those three types of relationships the opportunity to marry would completely contradict your rationale for why same sex couples should be allowed to marry. I would further argue that the reason same sex couples should not be allowed to call their unions marriage is to eliminate the possibility for bisexual, polygamists, and incestual partners to use the same argument to call their unions marriage, which you, yourself, have said would be a bad thing.
The thing that you fail to understand is that when two things are different, they have different labels. You are a woman and I am a man. We are both human beings, yet these two labels are still used. You are a woman now and were once called a girl. You had all the same physiological parts of a woman, but were called a girl. This label still sticks. So, if these labels can stick, why does it not make sence to call a homosexual union of two people something different from a union of two heterosexual people. Why do they have to be called the same thing? Can you not agree that man w/ man is different than man w/ woman? or that woman w/ woman is different than woman w/ man? Maybe the best way to illustrate is like this...
man with man.........................man with woman
woman with woman.................woman with man
It is as plain as day that we have three disticntly different unions. Why should they have the same title to their unions? You have yet to answer this question with anything other than uttering the same phrase "separate is not equal." However, are men and women not seen as equals in the eyes of the law? They have different titles and are still seen as equals in the eyes of the law. The same could be true of civil unions and heterosexual marriages. So, fight for the civil unions to be recognized in more states rather than redefining marriage in a state that already grants you the same rights as a married couple. There are 7 states that give a homosexual couple all or virtually all the same rights to a married couple through a civil union/domestic partnership and 5 more states that recognize civil unions with less rights. Contrasting that with the fact that there are only 2 states that recognize gay marriage a legal, it should be obvious that your fight would be much better served by pushing for civil unions to be what they are in California elsewhere. It's a more logical battle. The truth is that, even if California allows gay unions to be called marriage, it won't be a federally protected marriage. If you move to one of the other 47 states that have gay marriage bans and your marriage will be null and void. Same as having a civil union here and moving to another state to have it voided. Only with a civil union, you have more states you can move to where it will be considered valid.
Marriage has never in history been between two consenting humans of any sex. It has ALWAYS, for ever, been between two people; a man and a woman. So we have been discriminating against gays since the creation of marriage? Which by the way was a religious rite.
It's not emotional garbage to compare homosexuality to beastiality or pedophilia. (i feel they are all psychological or genetic mutations) That is just how I feel a court should approach such matters. Why ignore one but accept another? What is the justification for the line you abitrarily draw if we aren't allowed to use morality, religion or natural law?
You can't just say it is equal or unequal because you said so or it should be allowed because you don't agree with the objections.
This isn't about ineqality. It's about drawing a line, and retaining some moral fiber in a country that is quickly losing its traditional values which is a gateway to a host of other societal problems.
This isn't a first amendment issue. After Jefferson mentioned a wall of separation between church and state, he said the legitimate powers of government reach actions only, and not opinions. Gay marriage is an action that the government has every right to be involved in. Not to mention, prop 8 was voted on by the citizens, not the government.
The 14th amendment and loving vs. virginia doesn't apply either. Nobody is saying that gays can't marry. They just can't marry someone from the same sex. And the Loving vs. Virginia case dealt with interracial marriage, and that doesn't apply to gay marriage which is redefining what is a man and a woman. Why don't you look up Reynolds vs. US; the polygamy case where the court said that polygamy is a slippery slope, which if allowed will allow other abominable acts.
The supreme court believes that by virtue of the first amendment, government can not legislate against opinion, but CAN legislate against action. After all where do you draw the line? Incest marriage? religious sacrifice? animal marriage? Who defines that scope?
You said that marriage should be between two consenting humans, and so a brother and a sister that love each other and are over 18 are two consenting humans. So under what grounds do you deny that marriage but allow gay marriage?