Sammy, I think you are probably making a mountain out of a molehill
As a person who has voluntarily abdicated she is the person in the world who has a the very best idea of the troubles and difficulties that you have assumed. She is also likely to be very sympathetic toward your position.
Frankly, being a boss in a competitive operation is a very overrated position. You have my sympathy and most likely hers.
I am a boss. Worse yet I own the company. If I had a boss I'd flip it the bird and just quit.

Damn, I wish I had a boss