One of my pet peeves happened again today...
I was in the park in Boston watching my daughter and a couple of her friends playing. An older gentleman asked...
"Are you babysitting while the wife shops"?
"No", I replied a bit annoyed at the question.
"So you aren't watching these kids?" He asked.
"Yes, I am watching my daughter."
"So you are babysitting?"
"I said she is my daughter. I am NOT babysitting."
The gentleman looked a bit perplexed. So I took a breath and tried to explain as calmly as I could.
"I am a parent. What I am doing is parenting. When my wife watches her, no one says my wife is babysitting."
"Well, " he continued... looking a little taken aback "It is nice that you are helping out with your daughter."
A bit frustrated that he still didn't get it, I bit my tongue on a more caustic response.
"It's not that bad. My wife helps out with her too."
1) We are becoming a matriarchal society. Today's role for patriarchal involvement is fast becoming the role of providing the seed and financial support. He also said that he envisions a day when neither of those are required either.
Exactly my point ebrown. You fail to see the compliment.
Do you have something positive to add?
so.. why should I look at someones slap and automatically forgive them and think of it as a compliment when it really hurt?
( see your point,but I agree with ebrown..)
Why should men get kudos for doing what they're supposed to do?