break a leg or go bald...funny David.
I don't have any worries about nudity with my children - and never have. When they were little, I'd hop in the bathtub with them (one at a time - there wasn't room for me with both of them) just to save water and time.
This was ENTIRELY different from how my mom approached the issue with me (and the rest of my siblings). I actually have never seen my mother naked - in fact I've only ever seen her in a slip (do men know what that is- what women wear under dresses so you can't see through the dress). She was EXTREMELY modest - but even having been raised like that with her, I was different.
My daughter is more like my mother. When she was three years old and I bought her a two piece bathing suit - she'd only wear it with a shirt over it (in the water and everything) to cover her belly. Now - she didn't get this from me - I was the one who was bathing naked with her and sitting beside her in the pool with my two piece with no shirt over it.
Everyone is different in terms of this - inherently to some extent - I believe. Everyone has a different comfort level whether with their own level of comfort being nude as well as their level of comfort seeing someone else nude. I don't ask my daughter to strip in front of me because I know it would make her uncomfortable. But I'll change clothes in front of her and if it makes her uncomfortable, she can go in another room. But I won't call her repressed if she does - that's just her- I don't have to label her negatively for being different from me.
Sex on tv - I think it's a mistake...I've never seen a pornographic movie that didn't make me laugh- seriously. It always looks very mechanical and not very creative and fun. I'd like my kids to discover what works for them without these imposed images of what they should be doing or what it might be like. Who can say what it should or will be for them - let them do what comes naturally to them and discover and express themselves in terms of love and affection and sex.
That seems the healthiest to me.
David - if you want to see a topless beach-go to Miami beach. But as my son said, 'None of the young girls are topless - it's all the old ladies'. He was pretty disappointed with it.
I am very curious as to what danger thay perceive ?
If the kid were offering heroin, then I cud understand,
but we have never been told what the danger from nudity is. Getting cold ?
Yeah, who knows? I don't think that's it though (getting cold- you're so literal sometimes David- but funny). Although with my daughter - yeah- you know maybe that's it - as you know we adopted her and her birth mother did not have enough iron prenatally - so Olivia has low iron stores which negatively impact her body's ability to regulate its temperature - so she often IS cold - when those of us with normal iron stores feel comfortable - and she's thin as well - not a lot of insulating body fat so... just messing with you David (although all of that is true).David wrote:
Quote:I am very curious as to what danger thay perceive ?
If the kid were offering heroin, then I cud understand,
but we have never been told what the danger from nudity is. Getting cold ?
I don't think that's it though (getting cold- you're so literal sometimes David- but funny).
Although with my daughter - yeah- you know maybe that's it - as you know we adopted her and her birth mother did not have enough iron prenatally - so Olivia has low iron stores which negatively impact her body's ability to regulate its temperature - so she often IS cold - when those of us with normal iron stores feel comfortable - and she's thin as well - not a lot of insulating body fat so...
just messing with you David (although all of that is true).
But no, I think she's just modest- as a mechanism of her particular personality -
I don't think it has anything to do with a past life or anything.
In terms of other parents - I don't know what to tell you.
I think it's a very individual thing and that each parent knows his or her
child the best (you would hope) and knows what that child can or cannot
process and understand comfortably at what age or point in their development.
In terms of indiscriminately showing sex (as in sex without love or commitment
or even (most importantly to me) AFFECTION) yeah, it bothers even me
to see it at my age BECAUSE it cheapens it. It makes it so much less special
than I know it can be and do I want my children to view it as simply some
everyday run of the mill, throw away commodity?
No, I want them to view it as something valuable and
worthwhile and more special than reading the comics or having a cup of coffee
which is something every one can do with everyone else.
And I'd like them to have enough respect for themselves and their partners
that they keep it private - and will they develop that concept by watching
strangers **** strangers on tv every single minute of every single day?
I don't think so.
That's only my opinion though.
Quote:Although with my daughter - yeah- you know maybe that's it - as you know we adopted her and her birth mother did not have enough iron prenatally - so Olivia has low iron stores which negatively impact her body's ability to regulate its temperature - so she often IS cold - when those of us with normal iron stores feel comfortable - and she's thin as well - not a lot of insulating body fat so...
just messing with you David (although all of that is true).
She may be safer n less influenced by magnets.
Probably can use a compass better.
What is modesty made out of ?
In the sense of not being boastful, I can understand it.
I feel a need to be able to logically explain anything n everything.
It burns me that I do not understand.
Sometimes, I have wished that I cud unscrew some guy 's cerebral vault
and look down into his brain to c what is going on in there.
Its as if people's emotions r spring-loaded, at birth.
For instance, Jane, an ex-girlfriend of mine,
strongly supports freedom of abortion (as I do), whereas in early
childhood her son expressed fiercely passionate objection to it.
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In terms of indiscriminately showing sex (as in sex without love or commitment
or even (most importantly to me) AFFECTION) yeah, it bothers even me
to see it at my age BECAUSE it cheapens it. It makes it so much less special
than I know it can be and do I want my children to view it as simply some
everyday run of the mill, throw away commodity?
No, I want them to view it as something valuable and
worthwhile and more special than reading the comics or having a cup of coffee
which is something every one can do with everyone else.
By that reasoning,
do advocate a legal prohibition against kissing on TV or in movies,
so that kissing will be special ?
If your answer is negative,
will u describe by what reasoning u have arrived at that distinction ?
OK; as a thought experiment,
let 's try this: I know someone who took his girlfriend to an orgy place.
It was called "Plato's Retreat." (since closed by the IRS.)
Therein, its customers were happily humping away.
Did thay have insufficient respect for themselves n their partners ?
If your husband invited u there ?
Holy God David - I am laughing so hard right now trying to picture the man that I married inviting me someplace like Plato's retreat. Not really in the realm of possibility - although as our relationship has evolved into its present state we respect and know each other well enough to allow each other (as truly best friends and partners in parenting our children) the right to make our own decisions.Did u reply to my earlier correspondence, Rebecca ?
A few weeks ago ?
I was interested in some of your opinions
that were therein solicited.
