Is This A Proper Act of Friendship ?

If I recall, David is a member of Mensa and would certainly know the dangers of mixing substances.

I'm guessing that his train of thought is something like: She's an adult.
She is responsible for her own actions. I can stop her from harming a child,
provide a roof to know she is okay that way, but there is a line ....

Or something like that.

You did the right thing, David.

When she became my guest, it did not occur to me to try to prevent her from getting rum; I do not run a prison.

The alcohol that she drank was her own property.
Re-iterating, we both knew, from her long term experience,
that combining her Valium with alcohol never had any ill effects on her,
nor any discernible effect on her.

Too little, too late.

You're a sad excuse for a friend, David.

dys, you totally made my day.

OmSigDAVID wrote:

When she became my guest, it did not occur to me to try to prevent her from getting rum; I do not run a prison.

You don't have to run a prison. You don't have to prevent her from getting rum. You can't control what another person does but, you can control what comes into your house.

OmSigDAVID wrote:

The alcohol that she drank was her own property.
Re-iterating, we both knew, from her long term experience,
that combining her Valium with alcohol never had any ill effects on her,
nor any discernible effect on her.

Just because it hasn't yet, doesn't mean it still can't happen.

Yes David, I think you did the right thing.... for that moment.
It's not something that you would be able to do repeatedly.

So, whatever happened to her and Nancy?

Chai wrote:

dys, you totally made my day.

why is that

happycat wrote:

Yes David, I think you did the right thing.... for that moment.
It's not something that you would be able to do repeatedly.

So, whatever happened to her and Nancy?

After she moved out,
the second time, she committed herself to a hospital,
and then to a second hospital,
at which she got clean of her addictiion,
and she abandoned drinking also.

She moved to Las Vegas, where her sister and family had gone,
( she once called me collect, explaining that she had been in the Tropicana,
where she had been invited to leave, for non-payment,
and she was sleeping on the grounds, outside;
I believed her, and sent her some $$ so she and Nancy cud move back inside )
and later to California; between those 2 places.
Nancy is in her 20s, or 30s, and has her own little boy now.

Marilyn calls me occasionally.
She does not hit me up.

OmSigDAVID
I can see your point.
You did state she drank all that alcohol in your house and was taking valium also.
I understand you don't want to or try to control what someone else does (if I am correct).
So, if she was in your house and drank the alcohol and took a lot
of valium and died right in front of you, how would you feel?

As I stated in my first post,
I feel you did the right thing regarding the driving.

OmSigDAVID wrote:

happycat wrote:

Yes David, I think you did the right thing.... for that moment.
It's not something that you would be able to do repeatedly.

So, whatever happened to her and Nancy?

After she moved out,
the second time, she committed herself to a hospital,
and then to a second hospital,
at which she got clean of her addictiion,
and she abandoned drinking also.

She moved to Las Vegas, where her sister and family had gone,
( she once called me collect, explaining that she had been in the Tropicana,
where she had been invited to leave, for non-payment,
and she was sleeping on the grounds, outside;
I believed her, and sent her some $$ so she and Nancy cud move back inside )
and later to California; between those 2 places.
Nancy is in her 20s, or 30s, and has her own little boy now.

Marilyn calls me occasionally.
She does not hit me up.

I'm glad all are still alive and kicking.

TTH wrote:

OmSigDAVID
I can see your point.
You did state she drank all that alcohol in your house and was taking valium also.
I understand you don't want to or try to control what someone else does (if I am correct).
So, if she was in your house and drank the alcohol and took a lot
of valium and died right in front of you, how would you feel?

I 'd feel sad at her absence,
but neither she nor I believe in death.

We believe that death is a FAKE.
Fony as a $7 bill.
www.IANDS.org

OmSigDAVID wrote:

TTH wrote:

OmSigDAVID
I can see your point.
You did state she drank all that alcohol in your house and was taking valium also.
I understand you don't want to or try to control what someone else does (if I am correct).
So, if she was in your house and drank the alcohol and took a lot
of valium and died right in front of you, how would you feel?

I 'd feel sad at her absence,
but neither she nor I believe in death.

We believe that death is a FAKE.
Fony as a $7 bill.
www.IANDS.org

I also see so thank you.

hmm highly commendable to do your best in housing her and her child but you are only momentarily preventing the inevitable. It appears obvious she has a problem which is beyond her self control. Shame she cant put her child first instead of herself the woman needs proffesional help.

ehBeth wrote:

Too little, too late.

You're a sad excuse for a friend, David.

Goodness !

I must be a terrible person, Beth.

David

OmSigDAVID wrote:

ehBeth wrote:

Too little, too late.

You're a sad excuse for a friend, David.

Goodness !

I must be a terrible person, Beth.

David

I don't think you're terrible (based on this example), but I think a good friend would have done something before the woman living with you got into such a mess - especially with a child involved. I think you showed a distinct lack of caring about the woman and her child.

Money and a roof over a head are things a stranger can provide.

Caring, and intervention, they take love and friendship and courage.