I agree with Ashers in that my concept of kindness is more a state of being than a judgment I would apply to any individual act. I think Diane Feinstein was willing to do what she did because she was a kind person ,it would seem -unless she just wanted her political career to be enhanced by her heroic act of selflessness- did she do it before or after she entered politics and needed votes?
I don't think you can make someone kind. I don't think you can teach childen or anyone else to be kind if they are not kind-hearted people. I think you can teach them, as David said, it's in their best interest to act kind and at least appear to be kind.
But I think kindness is a personality trait- just like IQ- maybe there's even a kindness quotient. Some people have a kind heart and others don't. Think about siblings who were raised/taught exactly the same who react differently to people and situations- ever heard the term "mean streak"? I think that can be innate as well.
I think the best you can hope to do, as a parent, or as any other adult in a child's life, is treat them with nurturing, love and kindness and hope it rubs off, all the while providing an example of caring for others for them to experience and hopefully want to replicate- but they'll only
want or
care about doing that if they are kind-hearted people.
David- symbiosis doesn't fit because that entails mutual manipulation of one sort or another.
altruism is closer- because that usually is a direct result of a genuinely kind heart.
By the way- I think
you have a kind heart- as much as you try to disguise it....Busted!