My husband and I have been married for 49 years. He is a conservative and I am conservative about some things but lean more toward liberal. We may argue about that now and then, but, what has that to do with the time of day?
His parents didn't go to church at all, but always said they were High Episcopalian. I spent a ton of time in church growing up but was not brainwashed to "believe" any particular way. I read, and taught our kids to read and learn.
I think we are two individuals and that the marriage is separate. I don't think a marriage, however, can continue without some kind of project whether that's raising children, or whatever. The kids are gone but we enjoy working around our home, our friends, going places, the pets. We attend a Unity church now and them - but, Unity (the unchurch) is more into teaching people how to reach their potential, heal themselves, and live healthy lives.
He is my partner. We like to cook for each other, set a beautiful table. Little things do count. There sure is a lot to do around this place. We argue about that more than, say, religion.
Kara, you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, and would make a nice neighbor.