@izzythepush,
I had not forgotten what it meant. I never knew what it meant. That word wasn't used in the descriptions of what the Empress Theodora used to punish males who had incurred her displeasure. Which was very easily done.
The lady was a cultural marker for what power does to a female mind. It's necessary, not to say easy, to be sweet and virtuous when power is denied. Only females who had power provide a reliable guide to its effects on their behaviour.
Perhaps we should consider the long and weariesome list of ladies who had power before we grant our ladies much more of it. The simperings are just an easy route to power. Pure aggression.