Kickycan wrote:Hey, Nimh, did you notice all the flirting that women used to do with me on A2K when I first came on here? And did you notice how quickly it stopped after pictures of me got posted on this site? What a coincidence, huh? I'm an ugly ****. And I'm not even smart, like you, so quit yer bitchin'!
Damn, I'm a bitter f*cker today.
Oh my! I'm late on this, I saw that the thread has since gone all kinds of directions for some pages, but really! Kicky! Man! Its not true. I havent noticed anything like that at all.
In fact, I distinctly remember when your photographed self started making the rounds - remember that one with the left half of your face (or was it the right one)? People were all over that! It was much grounds for lady flirting with you, I clearly remember that, and rightly so too, cause you looked good. I remember, cause I was jealous. You have that dark handsome thing going on, and a manly face too - nothing goofy or nerdy about it. You can be grateful with it.
I think, if anything, interaction might have dropped off a little later because you all but disappeared for a length of time. Remember all those "Where is Kicky?" posts? (Well, actually, you probably dont because, err, well, you werent here [duh, nimh], but they were there.) And, I mean - I dont know, the forum's grown so big I might just have been trekking in different mountains at the time - but I had the distinct impression that for a long time after that, too, you were only present in the background sorta, drifting in and out. And that has an effect.
I mean, lets be honest - all the flirting thats done here is as much an expression of how available one is - how much of a regular one is on the General forum - as of any, you know, outer or inner attractiveness. If you're around and happy to be frolicked with regularly, then you know, you will be. Whereas if you're only on occasionally, you kinda go off the radar, and, in any case, flirting doesnt really work if you post some flirty offhand remark and the poster in question only sees it a day later, then you dont get this tit-for-tat to-and-fro that makes the General forum fun.
So, I mean - I feel where you're coming from - I think I know pretty much the exact same feeling. But to me, the idea that it was when you posted a picture that the women stopped flirting, just seems.. out there. So in a way its actually instructive, even, for me, to see how far off from reality these self-hating perceptions can drift... and they're totally self-defeating, of course, I mean, in life, generally. Cause they might stop you from even flirting or trying, or may make you give up on, or look cynically at, things that, in fact, might well still have something to them.
(See, I get all this on a theoretic level, or when looking at others. Its realising it about your own self-perceptions thats such a bitch.)