Love. It is as mysterious and unexplored as the greatest natural phenomenon, but somehow as sure and predictable as the shadow by your side. It is the common ground between people of all races, color, levels of prosperity, and levels of intelligence. It is the source of compassion; it is perhaps what has kept a race built on greed in existence.
Is one man meant for one woman, or in other words, does true love as we know it in theatres or dreams exist? One would argue not. From the perspective of a Christian this would be hard to believe considering one is not with their spouse in the afterlife.
Is love simply a figure of one's imagination, a concept fashioned in an attempt to please the craving to be wanted?
Or perhaps love is simply a chemical imbalance in the body. Naturally, the entire human race would shake their heads no. After all, who wants to believe that there is indeed no decent part of man? Any naturalist should question their beliefs; in some senses it seems that it is either love or the world. For a naturalist everything is measurable, down to the smallest particle of air or gas. One could count the days of the year, weigh a rock, or measure a stick; but one cannot put a measurement on love. It's ridiculous to even try and put a unit to it. Can one really say they love another more or less? One might conclude that everything considerate is done out of love. One might donate to a charity because they love the cause. Then again, one might donate because it makes them feel good about themselves.
Love amongst humans is nearly inarguably impure. In other words, one does not give love without receiving something in return.
For instance, the most obvious form of love, by human nature, is love between a man and a woman. The driving force is often but not invariably lust.
To put any confusion up to this point at bay, I am not arguing that love does not exist, or even that pure love does not exist, but that pure love does not exist on earth.
So what then is love? I have come to a definition in my cerebral journey: As darkness is the absence of light, and cold is the absence of heat, love is the absence of greed.
Is this a commonly held Christian belief - that one is not with their spouse in the afterlife? How could anyone possibly know this?
What about "like"? What about admiration or respect?" There are all sorts of driving forces that produce the feeling of "love".
Quote:I disagree. I think someone like Mother Theresa displayed pure love for all of humanity. I think Nelson Mandela displays pure love for those who were his jailers and persecutors for so many years by forgiving them. I think pure love is very rare - but I think it does exist - even here on earth.To put any confusion up to this point at bay, I am not arguing that love does not exist, or even that pure love does not exist, but that pure love does not exist on earth.
Quote:I disagree. I think someone like Mother Theresa displayed pure love for all of humanity. I think Nelson Mandala displays pure love for those who were his jailers and persecutors for so many years by forgiving them. I think pure love is very rare - but I think it does exist - even here on earth.To put any confusion up to this point at bay, I am not arguing that love does not exist, or even that pure love does not exist, but that pure love does not exist on earth.
I disagree. Particularly when you witness love between a parent and a child. The child does receive something in return for the love he or she shows the parent, but they are not aware of that dynamic and that is not why they give love - it is not a manipulation for them. It's instinctive. And even when a child has the experience of a parent or caregiver as abuser - they often feel loyalty and love for that person-simply because they are known and familiar to them.
That makes "love" passive. That makes it the absence of something instead of the addition of something. I think love is active. The absence of greed or malice doesn't translate into love - that's more like indifference, which again, is passive.
I think love begins with empathy and continues through compassion and into active caring. It's only after you recognize someone as another human being with value that you can even begin to care about what happens to them. All of that has to happen before you can even begin to attach the label of "love" to a person or relationship. And after that - I do think there's a chemical element to it - chemistry, symmetry (or dichotomy in an interesting way that's attractive to someone) of personality and ideals, recognition of a particular soul or spirit, etc. etc. Love isn't easily defined - I just know it's more than the absence of greed or anything else that's negative.
Thanks for posting this - it was interesting to think about.
The argument of the article is that there is always personal gain.
What was Mother Theresa doing? I know that in the Christian world works here on Earth translate to rewards in Heaven (parallel between Muslim?). Was she working towards rewards? Personal feeling of accomplishment? Who can really say? She's dead.
Same goes for Nelson Mandala. Perhaps a feeling of peace is a motivator. Thats not so far is it? In the end, strife seems almost a burden to keep around. Why do we do it? Human nature?
I was reading Marx today in Social and Behavioral Science Theory, and I remembered this article. I'm glad I did.
Quote:The argument of the article is that there is always personal gain.
No, I just can't agree with that. I don't know whether you do or not - I'm just saying, I don't agree with that particular premise in the article you're referring to. Sometimes love happens when there's nothing to be gained and everything to be lost. And sometimes love continues even after the hope for any relationship or gain has passed- just because of who or what that person was or meant to you. In fact, I guess that's what I think a definition of pure love might be - that you love someone for who or what they are without even thinking about what they can do for you
Sometimes people love people in spite of what they do for or to them, and not because of it.
Right, but when arguing something you have to first agree on the base of it. The rest is true if you consider the assumption stated to be true. Its funny, what you said there last about love being affection without thinking what they can do for you... isn't that being completely free of greed? It seems there that you would agree with me.
Quote:What was Mother Theresa doing? I know that in the Christian world works here on Earth translate to rewards in Heaven (parallel between Muslim?). Was she working towards rewards? Personal feeling of accomplishment? Who can really say? She's dead.![]()
That's true, she is dead. Actually, I think she was Christian - or maybe I've just always assumed that because she was a nun. Are there nuns in other religions besides Catholocism?
Anyway - she probably did feel better when she performed her charitable works- but don't you think that's more of a residual effect and not the reason she did them? I mean, there had to be some impetus for her to perform her first charitable work other than how it made her feel - or what she received - because she didn't know yet that it would produce endorphins in her brain that gave her a buzz. So what was behind that first charitable work? Maybe pure love.
Behind her first work? Maybe that place in Heaven. Maybe not, but the point is there is that there is a possibility. Also, the majority (I don't know any that don't) of Catholics percieve themselves as Christians, and I believe many are. I once lived in a convent... in Guam probably. I was young.
Quote:Same goes for Nelson Mandala. Perhaps a feeling of peace is a motivator. Thats not so far is it? In the end, strife seems almost a burden to keep around. Why do we do it? Human nature?
I was just thinking that. I was thinking that God (to me) is Peace - or absence of strife- such a great, descriptive word- "strife" it sounds like what it is. And this can take any form that enables any individual to find it (peace). Because when an individual is at peace, they aren't agitating or jockeying for position - they just are. And when enough individuals are happy and peaceful enough just to "be" - and allow others just to "be" -that translates into peace for large numbers of people.
But, I think you're right - human nature rebels against it-especially the part about allowing others just to "be". There are all sorts of rules and guidelines we impose on others about how they have to or should "be" all the time.
Truthfully, I think unhappy people want to see other people unhappy because if they see other people happy - it makes them think there must be something wrong with them-so they have to reduce happiness whenever they see it-so they'll feel equal. Whereas if they would "love" happiness when they see it -in the form of a person, activity, or ideal or cause, they'd be more likely to find it for themselves.
You're right, strife is a terrific word, and cultures are different so it will live on to be as descriptive as it sounds. I think you're also right about unhappy people finding ways to make others unhappy; if you can't achieve something, lower the standard to something you can. Again, you're right about the cure for them. Its a vicious cycle though, and they can't get out of it because it'd be contradictory to their nature to see hapiness. All they want to see is despair.
Quote:I was reading Marx today in Social and Behavioral Science Theory, and I remembered this article. I'm glad I did.
I'm glad you did too - love, peace, absence of strife -I'd be interested to hear how Marx viewed them. Talk about everything being equal-his vision is impossible (in this world at least) because the truth of the matter is, noone sees him or herself as equal- each person wants to believe in his or her own uniqueness - and in fact they are unique. But human nature translates differences and uniqueness into "better" and "worse" or "good" and "bad" instead of just "you" and "me" as human beings who deserve the same amount of dignity and respect just because we "are"- maybe that's the definition of pure love. What do you think?
Don't worry about it.
I agree about Marx's vision as being unrealistic. In fact, as egalitarian as I try to believe I am, I don't think I'd make a good communist. I do believe that extra effort and work should result in different results for a person than laziness and mediocrity.
I like the idea of everyone being taken care of though. That's one thing that really impresses me about England (where I live) as compared to the US (where I'm from). There just seems to be a more caring attitude about the group or population as a whole. People tend to look at things with more of a community spirit here, than the individualistic, isolationist, every man for himself spirit that everything is viewed with in the US.
Forgiveness is not impossible- just rare. That's what makes it so amazing when it truly happens.