Bella Dea wrote:I think people are too "fairy taleish" when it comes to the term "romance". I think for a lot of us, it means devotion, chivalry, and love. Not necessarily toe curling kisses every day and flowers brought by a man on a white horse. And definilty not the "weak woman" mentality of romance.
Manners HAVE changed, for both men and women and I too tend to think old fashioned when it comes to a lot of things. I am independent. I am able to survive on my own. I was not born to breed or cook or clean a house. I don't NEED a man; I want one. I want one to kill the spiders in my house. I want one to open the door for me. I want one to protectivly put his arm around me in a crowd.
This is my idea of romance: Respecting a woman and treating her like she is something special. Not putting her on a pedastal, but holding her up so her face feels the sun .
Maybe we all have delusions of the way "it used to be" because of movies and junk. I don't know. Were things different in the 40's? The 30's? Anyone here know for sure?
Same here, Bella. I am by no means living in a fantacy world and am not looking for a man to sweep the ground I walk on. That's just not what I'm talking about. I'm mainly talking about the same thing you are.
I also don't need a man, but I wouldn't mind having one that would cook/clean/kill spiders "with me" instead of them falling into the "that's a womens job" category.
One that I wouldn't even have to ask to help around the house and what not. He'd just do what needs to be done automatically, just like I do.
I want to work together with my man instead of this being his job and that being mine.
I like to do sweet things for a man every now and then to show them how much they mean to me and I would love to have a man do the same for me.
You know what I mean?
