Spidergal (and others), I'm glad you liked the advice of "putting up" (which I think in US means "laying aside") one's work for a while and returning to it fresh. That has really served me well. If time permitted, I tried to lay it aside long enough that I had forgotten what I wrote. Then fixing the prose or tweaking the content came much more easily. There was a beer company that advertised "kreusening" as their process, which meant letting the beer age. I used to call laying-aside my work "kreusening."
Meanwhile, our friend asked about how to know if someone will get your meaning. I think it best to assume they won't get one's meaning entirely. But there are ways to make their getting your meaning more probable, including:
*proper grammar and usage (where is the modifier, etc.?)
*avoiding ambiguous indicators (and phrases) for key references and important meaning--make it explicit
*being specific about what we mean in real-world terms ("It was a long time..." is not as specific as, "The train passed twelve times before she knew its whistle-voice bawling in the distance."
*careful editing (write once for meaning and then prune, prune, prune)--let it stretch to fit where your meaning lies and cut out distracting tangents
I think tangled prose can cross the sentence barrier so you can think about the entire paragraph, too--at first they usually come out inductive. You might want to put the last statement first and rebuild when you know you said what you wanted. It's counter intuitive to not tell the shaggy-dog story first, but really it often helps readers to get to the point first:
"She held him harmless, but after a terrible battle within. At first she wanted him dead. That ended with the nightmare--the dream he was dying and only she could let him live. She waved him on, but then left and never returned. She grieved and wished he would change, for twelve full years, but finally allowed herself to quiet and count the opportunities he had missed--too many for chance. Subtle but deliberate. She then confronted him to no avail. He said "yes" and did "no." More tears, more confusion--but eventual release. He may love her but never on terms she can endure. It was not his fault--but certainly not hers.
"Some things can not be fixed. Rich had told her that, years ago. And he was right. But Rich is dead. Floundering and weak, yet unburdened for the first time, she simply left him behind, closing the door on memories of both--for a new beginning untortured but alone."
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OK. Nobody will know exactly what I have written about, because it comes from my life and from my imagined-life (fiction). Men may take it very differently; women may embrace it as the story of their life and still be right--passive-aggressive men are a dime a dozen and ambivalent relationships are hard on everyone. Most of us have a Rich or an Aunt Susan, whose words cut through the chaos but can't be heard until they've lain cold awaiting their moment.
Assuming you read this, did you think "He" was also Rich? If I wrote it right you will simply KNOW Rich was someone else. If I muffed the structure you will miss my meaning. What if I had put the opening sentence at the end? I think it would have been too dragged-out to finish reading. In my view, writing is always persuasion--persuading the reader to read on.
-Sal